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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Wed Nov 04, 2020 12:11 am 
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Lesson 67: Poly-Addiction and Switching

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Video Games – One of my escapes when I was a child. From the stresses of school and the pressure coming from my parents. I can recall playing video games up until 3 AM in the morning when I was still in high school. Playing video games would still be healthy when kept in moderation and when I am using it as a way to develop certain values in my life such as in social situations, family time with my siblings and occasional reminiscing the past. However, too much would be compulsive.

Romantic Relationships – Had many failed relationships in the past. Fast relationships exactly. Part of the emotion-based decision making and not thinking of the consequences. Only attraction and certain emotions were taken into consideration. Didn’t have the time to build up the friendship between the relationship. Didn’t take the relationship maturely. Only short term pleasure or thrill.
A healthy romantic relationship for me would be spending time getting to know her. Knowing her as a person and not just basing decisions on emotions. Of course, there will be times when I may get overwhelmed by my emotions in the moment such as during intimate moments, but the true goal of having a romantic relationship would be to grow more as a person. First, I need to become whole (knowing who I am, knowing who I want to become, my hobbies, working on myself), and spend time getting to know her. A healthy romantic relationship would be like two stars dancing together. They are already shining before, but they become brighter as they share their moments together.

Social Media – An addictive way to pass time. Literally. I have experienced this. And still, sometimes I catch myself scrolling through social media before I sleep without accomplishing anything. I think I should really focus on this. Set up a way to help myself during those moments of stress and times that I just turn myself into just scrolling through social media.

Work – I saw myself addicted to work or accomplishment when I was still taking my board exam. I was spending so much time doing stuff for my board exam. Even I am stressed and my body was yelling at me that I needed a way to destress or do something else, I just kept myself pushing and pushing. I was not enjoying the moment but it was a way for me to pass the time since I didn’t know what else to build. Now, I see life to be more than what it is. And it is way more beautiful. Life is not all about achievements, but about getting satisfied with the chosen values that you did really want to develop.

Alcohol – There was a time in college when I was drinking alcohol every end of the week for almost 2 months straight. And that time, it changed me. It changed how I feel and connect with my emotions. I can see myself that I had become moodier during that time. I was chasing the high that I get in the moment of alcohol. I was chasing the hype of the bars. And in the morning after, I was really sad and down. I had to stop it, as I had the hunch that it was not really good for me. And I am thankful that I made the decision early to drink responsively and to really quit. Now I just drink occasionally. During birthday parties or during social gatherings.

B.
Yes. I monitor my relationships with these events/behaviors. However, as I am reading this. I have concluded that I needed to reduce my time using social media. There were times during the week that I didn’t develop other parts of my life such as my hobbies and mentoring due to my social media usage which accomplishes nothing. Will make a way to have a healthy relationship with social media instead of using it mindlessly during the night.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Nov 17, 2020 8:13 am 
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No Matter What Happens, When You Persevere, You Will Succeed...

As I was talking a while ago with someone who provided relief to those that were affected by the onslaught of the calamity that hit our country, I realized that the problems we face will make us stronger when we face them wholeheartedly.

The way that he was explaining his emotions after distributing the goods to those people that were really in need, and the way he smiles because of the satisfaction was priceless. I want to cultivate more this attitude. I want more positivity in my life.

And as he explains the warmth that the smiles of the people provide, those who were victims of the calamity, was something that I should have added more in my path toward health. For those people who are just starting out in the recovery journey, even there are setbacks, as long as you continue that path and sincerely learn from the mistakes that you've made, continue to smile and move on. Persevere. And the path to a balanced life, the path to a healthy life would be in sight and within reach.

I'm sorry for not posting for a while, there had been power interruptions and internet connection problems in our area due to the flood caused by the typhoon. All I know is that life continues to move and we have to face what life brings to us no matter what.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Sat Nov 21, 2020 8:19 am 
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Lesson 68: Anger Management and Addiction Recovery

An Argument with my Mom
Element #1: I was in a low mood as I brought my mom home. (Slightly Irritated)
Element #2: She started complaining about her work, about our family, etc. (Further Irritated)
Element #3: I interrupted her and told her that she keeps on complaining and why not try to look at the positive side of things. (Started wanting to change something)
Element #4: The argument continued until I was bringing up her past mistakes on the way she raised me and my siblings. (Anger)
Element #5: I didn’t had much control and blurted out more of my hidden anger toward her. (More Anger)
Element #6: Taunted her as she left me and didn’t want to speak anymore. (Anger, but lower and about to finish)
Element #7: Reflected whether I was right on sharing my anger or I may have overstepped. (Guilt)


Elements 4, 5 and 6 were the elements that made my anger intensified.

Yes, I think I should have created a break starting from Element #2, then I could have done something to stimulate my mood that is in line with my emotions. That break would allow me to make the necessary actions and think through what I will do instead to cool off myself.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Mon Nov 23, 2020 10:58 pm 
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November 24, 2020 (TUE)

It’s been 2 months now since an incident with Pornography. And I have relapsed today. I feel bad for myself but I will stand up. Let’s halt the deterioration and rebuild the parts of my life that needs to be rebuilt.

ASSESSMENT
These past few weeks, I’ve been socializing more and more. Been out more, been doing things outside my comfort zone and honestly, time was lessened or removed on some parts of my value system such as my physical health (nutrition, sleep and exercise), alone time, reading Recovery Nation, reading books, and spending time on my hobbies. I think I’m giving too much time and effort on trying to give people time, and I need to balance out the time for myself and the time to go out. LEARN MORE ON SETTING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES WITH THE CURRENT PEOPLE AROUND ME.
The deterioration was gradual. And I know I may have felt that something is wrong but I trying my best to try to balance out things.

Also, I am spending time more on my mobile phone. And not in a healthy way. As I’ve observed, I would use my mobile phone sometimes before going to sleep, watching YouTube.

MOTIVATION
The motivation for the relapse was really spontaneous. I did not set it up. I was alone, and honestly slightly tired or not in my best self. The blockers were still there. But I used Google to look at pictures of the past actresses that I’ve enjoyed watching, and I continued to masturbate.

ADJUST
- Use this time to set healthy boundaries. Build connections, set boundaries, then continue to build connections and reassess boundaries. It’s a process.
- Set time for alone time (journaling, jogging alone, no electronic gadgets, reflection)
- Use Recovery Nation as a reminder and put time on Mentoring. Still, in the process of transition and not yet fully recovered (not yet fully learned to balance my emotions with my values), and use this opportunity to help others and also remind myself.
- Don’t compromise your physical health. Healthy nutrition and exercise provide a healthy mind. Also, sleep is important.
- Take time for hobbies
- Adjusted my mobile phone, deleted unnecessary apps. Removed my browser since I only use my laptop for productive stuff. I WANT TO USE MY PHONE ON PRODUCTIVE STUFF. Change my way of using my smartphone.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Nov 24, 2020 5:26 am 
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Hello Dan
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I have relapsed today. I feel bad for myself but I will stand up. Let’s halt the deterioration and rebuild the parts of my life that needs to be rebuilt.


OK
you know that relapse is to fall back to a previous state, a state of mind in the case of addiction
I do not belive that your action has taken you back to where you started, you slipped and slips should not accepted, learn from this

Why?
What did you get both positively but more importamtly negatively?
re assess where you are and where you want to be, consider where you think you should have been and embrace the positives that you find in this due consideration

Taks stock and yes CHOOSE
but do choose WISELY, you have the tools use them

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Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Dec 01, 2020 6:47 am 
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Assessing where I am...

First of all, I want to thank you Coach Kenzo for sharing your insights in my Recovery thread. You have been like a father to me, a person in my recovery journey that has guided me in this forum.


Where I am? What did I learn?

I know and I really feel, that human connection is a part of my values system. Sharing time with your friends, meeting new people. exploring your boundaries (or rather getting out of your comfort zone, initiating talks, initiating hangouts, initiating gatherings, and sharing yourself with people, makes the world brighter and more meaningful.

BUT...
Don't forget to put some time for yourself and for other parts of your values system. My NUTRITION is important to me. My CAREER is important to me. My STUDIES are important to me. My EXERCISE ROUTINE is important to me. My MORNING AND EVENING ROUTINE is important to me. Getting ENOUGH SLEEP is important to me. My FAMILY is important to me. My RECOVERY is important to me. LEARNING things, READING GREAT BOOKS, IMPROVING MYSELF. These things are all important to me.

It's all about balance, planning, scheduling, and becoming flexible on whatever happens is very important.
Also, the lessons about addiction, about getting to know your emotions and learning to balance them with values, can be applied in areas of my life such as on my Smartphone Usage and on Social Situations.



For me, for those people that are also in the same age group as mine (I'm in my early 20s). I have discovered that we should not be scared of discovering and exploring more about ourselves as long as they are part of our values system. I have been trying to do those things that I have written before, pushing myself too hard to change, trying to achieve grades and things, trying to become more successful, but forgetting about myself (forgetting to take time to discover what I really like). And this past 2 to 3 months, I've tried things, I've gotten out of my comfort zone, socialized, met new people, reconnected to my old friends, tried new experiences, been out of our house and I have learned so much from those experiences.

Ask yourself...
Do I really like the things that I do every day? Do I love what I do? Do I have a balance on my career, social circle, family, self-reflection, and recreation?

I feel more confident about myself now. But still, I should not forget about my transition from recovery to health.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Dec 08, 2020 8:34 am 
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A Skill That I Need to Develop More...

I want to learn how to handle my social connections better. As I am starting to share more and more time with different people, I am really trying my best to have that win-win situation. But, as I am reflecting, I always give my time or I am easily persuaded to do things, even I have other plans or things that I want to do.

Maybe, this is because I am really longing also for social connections. I have been lonely before and that is one emotion that I am masking with my compulsive behavior. But I need to balance this part of my life out. I can't let my emotions be the only reason why I am with my friends and the people around me. I need to learn how to use my values in my relationships.

I have lived my life as a loner. I have few friends but I don't go out much and I don't interact much with other people. As a result, I really need to develop this skill. I want to learn how to interact with different people and I want to learn how to set healthy boundaries with my new relationships.

How will I do that?

Read Books? No More Mr. Nice Guy helped me. But I can learn more. There can be plenty of books on how to share yourself and how to become better at handling relationships with people.
Experience? More experience. More learnings. But there should be reflection and growth.
YouTube Videos? Some videos are great. But make sure I am learning
Self Mastery? I should be sure of myself. Of what I want. And that's when I will know what I want from the people around me. That would be my guide on my decisions when I am with people and when I am interacting with them.

Any recommendations would also help brothers. I hope you all the best.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Thu Dec 10, 2020 7:48 am 
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Lesson 69: Victim Awareness

Making Amends

Myself
I want to make amends to myself. By taking up this recovery journey, it was the initial step, it was the start. But to fully release myself of the chains of the guilt and shame of my past, I need to work on my self-confidence and have a strong sense of who I want to be. To continue building who I want to be, and to forgive myself for my mistakes of the past. To continue life and to keep building up to my full potential. To keep on exploring this life that I have.

I will not let anyone control what I want to be anymore. I will take up responsibility for where my life goes. Be it in my career, social connections, financial status, hobbies, and where I put my extra time. In my career, I will be the one who will choose whether I will continue studying for a higher degree or I will continue taking a job. No matter the consequences, I will be the one responsible.
For my time for myself, I will protect it by putting boundaries. By saying no to people if I really wanted space and time for myself.
I think, this journey of recovery is more of building who really I am. More on making amends on myself. Not running away from my problems. Not distracting myself from what I want from my life. But really putting effort and facing those things that I want to accomplish. Exploring myself, and not just pushing myself to do things that I feel that I don’t want to do. There will be times of struggle, but I will be responsible on how to deal with them and how will I change my circumstances.


Eya, Ivy, Cess, Lyn
Impulsive relationships that I had back then. These relationships were emotion-based only. Very little value involved. Attraction, the heat of the moment, taking care of my feelings of loneliness, lust. After getting what I wanted, after the emotions waned off, the feeling and want of interacting with them were nowhere to be found. Learned from these relationships. Yes, the initial spark of attraction should be there, but, always return to your values. Taking time, asking, getting to know, reflecting, is she the one that I want to be in a romantic relationship with? Not exactly marriage, but being my girlfriend first. I’ve learned, and still in the process of learning but I know there was an improvement.

My Siblings and My Parents
Was not the best brother to my siblings and was not the best son to my parents. Now, as I continue to take responsibility in my life, I am doing things that I want to share with this family. Sharing what I can share like sharing what I’ve read in books, and giving book recommendations to them. Sharing the meditation app that I’m using which is great, I’m using HeadSpace and they started using it as well. Sharing the recipes that I’ve learned and cooked for them. And listening to them whenever they ask me for advice on businesses and finances. Also, I may have disrespected them before by talking with them with disrespectful intonation and high pitched voice. But now, I’m mending the wounded relationship and hoping to have this strong bond with my family.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Mon Dec 14, 2020 8:51 am 
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Lesson 70: Healthy Guilt and Shame

GUILT, SHAME, and DISHONESTY - red flags that tell that there is a threat in my current value system

These red flags help to monitor in maintaining a healthy life. Red flags exist because there is something wrong.

Do not try to think GUILT and SHAME through by rationalizing.
Recognize, that my values are being threatened and act accordingly.
or consciously ignore the signs and accept whatever consequences may result.

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My experience with guilt and shame may be different. I have read these books "Healing Developmental Trauma" and "Healing Your Emotional Self" and I have discovered that I feel guilty whenever I try to do something for myself or to deviate from the wants or needs of my parents. I have discovered that I was smothered as a child and that my parents used me for their own gratification. For them to look like they are good parents with the health of the child being put into jeopardy. For example, before, I would feel guilty just hanging out with my friends in primary school and high school. I even feel guilty socializing when I was in college. Because I was raised by a very strict family that doesn't allow me to socialize that much.

And then, from the two books mentioned above, I learned that I should stand up for myself. I should go out to explore things. I should learn how to share myself with other people. To have my own likes and dislikes. Without feeling guilty when I want to say no to things. Without feeling guilty when I try to do things for myself. Without feeling guilty to pursue what I really want. And to make the life that I really wanted.

I think, building the life that I wanted was the really big thing that I learned in this recovery journey. To set my own path. To learn more about myself. And that's what really helped me to live in this current situation in my life. Yes, I had slips and relapses in the past, but I can assess right now that I have been better, and I feel satisfied with my current life with the current values that provide the foundation for me. And I will continue to strengthen and put more foundations in my life toward health.

Adding, I would feel guilty for doing things that are new to me. I would feel bad whenever I try to do things that are new. I would feel scared that I may be doing a bad thing. That's the trauma that my parents had provided me from their parenting. I was afraid to go out of my comfort zone and try new things, especially those that are accepted socially and "in" with the current generation. That made me have a hard time with connecting with the people around me and those with the same age as me.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Dec 15, 2020 1:32 am 
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Lesson 71: Maintaining Awareness

Ongoing Awareness...

To instill an ongoing awareness of my life and where my life goes. I will continue to post and reread this Recovery Workshop as long as it really helps me. I know there were many things that have changed in me. A change in who I want to be. A change on the inside, not seeking outside validation, but wants to share things learned.

Awareness means not leaving monitoring behind. Weekly monitoring, still is a great tool for me and I think I will continue to use it for the next few months until I feel more balanced in the things that are happening in my life. Continuing the healthy acts and things would make habits and as I built them, I will continue monitoring my life on a monthly basis (in the next few months when I think it would be safe).

Awareness of my weak times, on times of stress, on times of drinking alcohol, on times of meeting new women that I may find attractive.

With this, I will review my Reactive Action Plans. And visualize.

I think, more on awareness of where my time goes and where my energy goes. That's the awareness that I need. I don't feel urges or I have little urges whenever I feel satisfied with what I do. And whenever I do things that are in line with my values.

Warning signs would be emotional instability coming from too much playing of video games, too much social media, boredom and mindlessly spending time on whatever I want to do. Also, remembering the motivation behind what I do and spend my time with. MOTIVATION behind things, this really helps. THE WHY... that's why reflecting on what's happening is a great thing to do.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Sun Dec 27, 2020 8:20 am 
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Lesson 72: Health Monitoring V

"Gradually decrease my Weekly Monitoring into Monthly Monitoring."

This lesson makes sense from a futuristic perspective. For me, I would still continue Weekly Monitoring until I managed to get myself into six months of no Porn event, or any unhealthy sexual incident.

Going back to my Healthy Sexual Values, I have listed that having sex or making love with someone that I am in a romantic relationship with would be healthy, and I think absolute semen retention would be necessary. I have used pornography before I even had my first relationship with a woman. And I think my healthy sexual values should be developed also. It is a part of my sexuality and as a man.

As time passes and as habits are built, I feel more balanced in my life. However, there are times that I fail and I let my emotions take over me, sometimes I feel sad when I'm alone, sometimes I feel drained after so much socializing, sometimes I let my anger (or any strong emotion) take over me. But as I build more values. I continue to feel satisfied and at ease with what's going on with my life.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Tue Jan 05, 2021 7:51 pm 
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Lesson 73: Leaving Addiction Behind

I'm in Tears...

Have this one night to celebrate. To just feel great that I have finished this Recovery Workshop.

It took me about two years to finish this Recovery Workshop. I started last January 15, 2019, and it's already January 06, 2021. I had left the workshop as I was doing my licensure exam for my degree program. And after getting my license, I took a break, really put the effort in focusing on my recovery journey, learning what I really want from my life, journalling about myself, taking time to learn about my emotions, and going out of my comfort zone.

After this day, after this celebration, I would focus more on my life. On mastering to manage my life through healthy means. To use my values to guide me in managing my emotions. To change the frequency that I'm caught up with my past, as I am here now. I am here in the present moment, that I'm trying to become better every day, that I'm in control of my life where it is headed.

More on making connections. More on filling the void that I am feeling sometimes when I feel alone. More on making great friendships and family. More on loving myself for who I am in the current moment. But always striving to be better. Learning from my mistakes in the past and celebrating small victories that I had and will experience. More on developing my career and achieiving. More on learning to become better in handling my finances and having financial stability. More on learning about my emotional self. More on developing a useful and healthy renewal time for myself. More on achieving my greatest potential as a human being. More on taking care of myself and having time for exercise and nutrition. And more on growth.

Thank you so much for the people behind my Recovery Journey. And to you Coach Jon for making this available to normal human beings that really wanted to recover from their compulsive behavior. Thank you so much Coach Kenzo, L2R, Theseus and to all other people who helped me in my journey. And I really appreciate my family, the people that I've met who accepted me for who I am right now. And to one of my bestfriends right now. I am very thankful.

Of course, I will not forget to give back on this workshop. To help in mentoring. And to always go back and reread the lessons that I may have not put much effort into. May this stability and transition toward health continue. I will never forget this part of my life, that have provided so much learnings and lessons to become stronger and better as a person. Again, thank you Recovery Nation.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Wed Feb 10, 2021 10:16 pm 
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No, I Did Not...

No, I did not leave Recovery Nation. I used my time for business. After preparing for about 3 weeks, and with the help of the people around me, we successfully opened a new family business (a convenience store). Which was very successful and on its second week on its own.

Stress, anxiety, anger, and different emotions flowed through during that time. But I managed to make peace with my emotions. I managed to have my urges in peace. I know that time was not very healthy since I did not have too much time for my nutrition, exercise, social life, sleep, and recovery. And I need to regain back my old habits and regain my healthy lifestyle. But that's how life is, sometimes, you need to take the L (to Lose), before you can win at things. You need to struggle first before you can have something for yourself.

For me, it was a success. For me, I'm already transitioning to a healthy lifestyle. For me, I'm already taking steps toward managing my emotions through healthy means. Sharing laughter with the people around me when we are stressed. Taking time to take breaks. Telling people what I feel and to rest, instead of just pushing myself to the limit. Socializing with every kind of people, from rich to poor without judgment. It feels so satisfying with this kind of life. And what's best is that I didn't even relapse. There were urges, but I know I managed them in a healthy way.

Thank you Recovery Nation!

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
PostPosted: Thu Feb 11, 2021 12:37 am 
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Hi Dan,

Well done for completing the lessons! I know that feeling #1 of accomplishment & #2 of feeling that you have turned a corner in your life!

Just be aware of complacency from now on.

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 Post subject: Re: Dan's Recovery
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Supplemental Lesson: Your Unique Path Through Recovery

Each people had different experiences. And each people had different lives that they were "forced" to live with.

However, in terms of addiction recovery, there is no unique path to take. But only a path that will lead to managing life. With an emphasis on managing life, instead of managing emotions.

Awareness of the chains (already had the skill with this), awareness on when to take a break (also a skill developed), awareness of what things to do, and visualizing when a crucial moment may come.

Also, more on living the life that you want. That's what recovery is.

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Thank you, Theseus for your words. I hope the best for all people here in Recovery Nation.

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Boundaries.... Boundaries.... Boundaries....

As I have been continuing to live life and sharing myself with other people. I can't help but emphasize the need for putting healthy boundaries. And also learning about the boundaries of other people.

Putting healthy boundaries helps in managing a healthy life. Values are protected. Discomfort is reduced and living a healthy lifestyle becomes easier. As an example, telling no whenever the need to do so in a good and nice way really helps. Additionally, having time for yourself really helps in reflecting on where my life is headed.

Learning about the boundaries of other people helps in maintaining a healthy relationship with them. Taking into account their boundaries lets you see their world and provides emphasis on them (not abusing them whether the opportunity arises or not).

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