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PostPosted: Fri Apr 24, 2015 9:50 am 

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After 10 years of marriage on the 13th of Feb this year I found out my husband had been cheating on me. We had rough patches throughout our relationship where I felt insecure and not loved or care for. Over the years our sex life seemed to go down hill even though we don't have kids and we loved each other (or so I though). In two separate occasions we went to marriage counselling because he was aggressive (non violent) and another because of our sexual life. He never once mentioned he was seeing other people or he felt like doing so, the total opposite.

On February something told me to check his phone, so I did. And i found explicit messages with a woman where it made it clear he was indeed having sex with her and he intended to continue. He shared private information about out our lives, etc. By reading all this I felt devastated and betrayed. When i confronted him, he initially denied it and once i told him I had evidence then he decided to tell the "truth". He said it was just the one person and that he had only seen her a few times and the last time was over a year ago. I asked him to leave the house and so he did.

A month and a half down the line I decided i could forgive, work on our relationship and hopefully move on as I am still very much in love with him. After a date night, he left his phone and i checked again, He had deleted mostly everything. However, he had sent a picture of his penis to an email address that i knew belonged to him. I proceeded to request new passwords and get into that email address only to find that he had been actively chatting with dozens of women on multiple dating sites, replying to personal ads from Craig List and so on. I confronted him again the next day, reading the emails he had sent and the extent and gravity of the situation. It wasn't a one of thing anymore. He told me about 5 other women he had sex with (unprotected) and how he had taken one to our previous home and how she had spent the night in our marital bed.

I have been obsessing over the messages and today i found a video he made with one of the women. I feel so angry!!! I'm angry at him, I'm angry at the women that knowing he was married still went ahead with it. I'm hurt and I don't know what to believe anymore.

He gave me his computer and his phone, he changed his phone number and he swears he has no contact with any pf this people any more and that he knows he has a problem as he spent hours on chat rooms, watching porn and having sex with strangers.

I'm devastated and I have no idea how to cope with this all. I want to help him, I want him to recover and I want our marriage to work. but cant help but feel he is not telling me all the truth and that he will only learn to cover up his tracks better.

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