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PostPosted: Mon Oct 22, 2018 11:09 pm 
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I had been with my boyfriend for getting close to 4 years. We live in different cities so could only see each other on weekends & holidays.
Despite this,our relationship was a good 1. We spoke every night on the phone & had a lot in common.

He told me I was his 1st real girlfriend. He’d never been interested before. Quite early on in our relationship he’d told me he’d had sex with “escorts”. This shocked me but it was in his past so I didn’t think too much about it (stupid,I know!)

Sex was always amazing & we had a lot of fun in other areas too.
Things were going fine (or so I thought) until 1 day I turned up at his place & he admitted he’d been unfaithful. I was so shocked. I couldn’t speak or take in what he was saying.
He admitted he’d gone to another prostitute. The guilt was making him ill so he had to tell me.
I couldn’t face him that day so I went to my Sister’s & cried on her shoulder.
Since that day we’ve spoken on the phone & he admitted he’s spent £1,000s on internet porn over the years & is now seeking help by going to SA meetings.
I’ve seen him once since our breakup & still want him in my life. I feel a fool but I still love him.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 24, 2018 3:47 pm 
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Lesson 2

I have always been a very good listener & try not to judge people.
I would like to think after what has happened I will 1 day learn to trust again when/if I get into a relationship.
I am happy with my life outside of being with my ex & hope I make the right choices for the future.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 25, 2018 2:51 pm 
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Lesson 3
I never knew nothing of my partners addiction until we broke up so I can’t say I had any gut instincts but looking back on things now he often used to bring up the topic of sex in a jokey way & would sometimes stare at or grab my breasts whilst we were out in public. I found this annoying but he saw nothing wrong with it.

He often used to talk about a female coworker which I saw as an innocent thing (& maybe it is) but they often go to the gym together & recently even went to the cinema. I’m wondering how long before either of them crosses the line....
She is married but there are rumours she had an affair with some other guy at work


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 25, 2018 3:00 pm 
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Lesson 4
His good points:
Loving
Caring
Thoughtful
Kind

His bad points:
Lazy
Fussy
Sometimes moody
Poor loser


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