Welcome to the Partner's Workshop

The workshop you are about to engage in will not remove the pain that you are likely feeling, nor will it lessen the consequences that you have been forced to endure. In fact, as you begin to thoroughly examine your partner's selfish, destructive acts, you will likely experience an increase in the pain and be forced to deal with the reality that the consequences you now realize are just the beginning. As more discoveries come to light, as more lies become known, as more secrets become shed--and they almost always do in cases of sexual addiction, no matter how sincere their initial promises of honesty may seem--the web of pain and consequence will only grow, ensuring that you remain on an emotional roller-coaster for much longer than is necessary.

Hopefully though, with the insights presented in this workshop, and with the opportunity to examine the mind of a sexual addict in a manner that few ever have, you will develop the ability to objectify your partner's addiction and pull yourself free from its grasp. That is not to say--that is NEVER to say--that your partner's actions have resulted from some uncontrollable force/disease (i.e. addiction) that has rendered him/her incapable of controlling their actions. As you shall see from the model presented within this workshop, people engaging in such compulsive behavior, do so consciously. They are fully responsible for their actions--no matter how irrational or self-destructive they may seem. But addiction is a pattern that strongly influences decision-making. It establishes a pattern of making decisions based on immediate emotional gratification--without giving consideration to either the consequences of those actions or the values associated with that decision. Without giving emotional consideration, that is. As you will discover, intellectual consideration is often given to such matters prior to the act, but is quickly overwhelmed by the emotional intensity being derived.

Still, this does not mean that your partner is not to be held responsible for the decisions he/she makes. Nor does it mean that your partner is somehow more deserving of compassion and/or empathy from you--though the latter does seem to be a natural consequence of this workshop. At this point, all talk of your partner is irrelevant. This workshop is not about your partner. It is not even about your partner's addiction. It is about you and the effects that that addiction has had on your life. It is about your ability to develop a solid foundation for breaking free from another's addiction/recovery cycle. It is about regaining control over your life.