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PostPosted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 8:04 pm 
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Lesson 1

A. Three keys to establishing a successful foundation for permanent change in early recovery are:
1) actively committing yourself to change
2) not allowing guilt/shame to sabotage your commitment to change
3) allowing yourself time to change.
Consider where you feel you are in relation to each of these recovery keys? Briefly share your thoughts in your Recovery Thread.

1. Im ready to recover now. I am utterly sick of living the way that I have been living and I just want to live a healthy life now. I am ready to apply myself 100%, no excuses, no bullshit. Its time to work towards being healthy.

2. I fully accept that I've ended up in this position. I'm not ashamed or guilty. It is what it is and its time to move past it onto a healthy lifestyle.

3. Each day at a time. As long as I put the work in then the time will pass and I'll begin to get better.

B. Beyond an active commitment to change, another important factor in determining your ultimate success is your motivation. Look deep inside and list ten to fifteen reasons why you seek to permanently change your life. Don't stop at three or four obvious ones, really examine your life and what is important to you. Phrase these in the positive. For example: " I don't want to keep deceiving my wife" would serve you better if written like "I want to be honest and transparent with my wife". Positive statements have much more power in our mindset than negative ones. List these in your recovery thread.

1. To feel at ease, content and happy again
2. To feel calm and collected
3. To regain my self esteem and self confidence
4. To clear my mind so I can think and recall clearly
5. To spring out of bed and have that motivation for life back
6. To learn to handle life properly in a healthy way
7. To reach my full potential
8. To see who I really am
9. To connect with people
10. To have a healthy relationship
11. I want to work towards my goals and not hold myself back.
12. I want to deal with challenges, obstacles and stress in a healthy way in order to improve myself


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PostPosted: Sat Dec 09, 2017 8:32 am 
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Im ready to recover now. I am utterly sick of living the way that I have been living and I just want to live a healthy life now. I am ready to apply myself 100%, no excuses, no bullshit. Its time to work towards being healthy.

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so welcome to RN
if you really do want to improve your life and to recover from your addiction then you are at a good place to make that wish reality
Commit , fully and completely
work through the lessons and understand them , if you miss something ask on the help forum , assistance is always on hand
coaches and mentors are likely to drop by occasionally but if not, don't worry as this is generally a good indicator that you are on the right path

the path is long and difficult but it is well proven and you are not alone
we usually suggest completing about 3 lessons a week but spending time every day posting and reading
get to know your addiction and see yourself with honesty and openness

remember to work at your own pace and its not a race indeed some consider recovery to be a journey rather than a destination

your reasons for change are generally solid as they are positive and about you
remember the only person that can make these changes is you, so the hard work needs to come from you
looking forwards to reading your posts and wishing you all the best

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo


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PostPosted: Sat Dec 16, 2017 7:11 pm 
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Personal Vision

I want to be career driven again. I enjoy learning and studying and I’m now approaching a point where I will have to choose what to do in this area. If I dedicate myself then I know I am capable of succeeding in this area. I know the route I’d like to head down but I’ve neglected it for a while now. I enjoy being challenged, succeeding and pushing myself.

I want to develop deep and meaningful relationships with friends and family. I want to allow myself to become vulnerable in a romantic relationship with someone and to build trust, intimacy and love with that person.

I want to be physically fit. Ive noticed I am becoming unhealthy and unhappy with my physical health recently. I care about being in the best shape I can be in. Its important to me that I take care of myself.


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PostPosted: Sat Dec 16, 2017 7:22 pm 
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Values

1. Being dedicated
2. Building meaningful relationships
3. Staying active
4. Being dependable
5. Being reliable
6. Taking care of myself
7. Pursuing a career
8. Striving for excellence
9. Physical health
10. Sexual intimacy
11. Integrity
12. Personal Independence
13. Improving my social interactions
14. Intellectual growth and communication
15. Communicating feelings
16. Feeling happy and content
17. Friendship
18. Personal growth and development
19. Self-discipline
20. Being a leader
21. Bringing joy to others
22. Continuously improving
23. Love
24. Being financially stable
25. Reaching my full potential
26. Being mature
27. Being mindful
28. Freedom
29. Sense of humour
30. Being responsible
31. Being respected
32. Appreciating others
33. Being studious
34. Working hard

Dark Side
1. Escaping work and responsibility
2. Being bored
3. Relieving stress
4. Lack of self-discipline
5. Coping mechanism


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 17, 2017 7:49 pm 
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Prioritised Values

1. Being dedicated
2. Building meaningful relationships
3. Staying active
4. Pursuing a career
5. Taking care of myself
6. Being dependable
7. Being reliable
8. Physical health
9. Striving for excellence
10. Improving my social interactions
11. Communicating feelings
12. Sexual intimacy
13. Integrity
14. Personal Independence
15. Intellectual growth and communication
16. Feeling happy and content
17. Friendship
18. Sense of humour
19. Personal growth and development
20. Self-discipline
21. Being a leader
22. Bringing joy to others
23. Continuously improving
24. Love
25. Being financially stable
26. Reaching my full potential
27. Being mature
28. Being mindful
29. Freedom
30. Being responsible
31. Being respected
32. Appreciating others
33. Being studious
34. Working hard


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PostPosted: Tue Dec 19, 2017 6:10 pm 
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Lesson 5

My choice of university course was driven by my career and dedication value as well as some others. I would still make the same choice today. I made the right choice at the time.

Majority of the jobs and work experience I have pursued have aligned with the same values and goals as above and were the correct choices to make. I believe I have identified a practical values list the I will be able to work with in the forthcoming.

Top 15 values

1. Being dedicated
2. Building meaningful relationships
3. Staying active
4. Pursuing a career
5. Taking care of myself
6. Being dependable
7. Being reliable
8. Physical health
9. Striving for excellence
10. Improving my social interactions
11. Communicating feelings
12. Sexual intimacy
13. Integrity
14. Personal Independence
15. Intellectual growth and communication


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PostPosted: Wed Dec 20, 2017 12:59 pm 
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Lesson 6

Being dedicated
- Each day do at least one thing to further my goals
- Accept that some days this will not be possible if doing other healthy things
- Understand that this will be difficult at first to get used to
- Quality over quantity

Physical health
- Focus on my physical health each day
- Exercise 3/4 days a week
- Track what I am eating each day and avoid junk food
- Accept that their will be times where I eat junk food and that is ok

Building meaningful relationships
- Make an effort to talk to friends and family
- Answer with proper sentences and not one word answers
- Understand sometimes I will be alone and thats ok


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PostPosted: Sun Dec 24, 2017 4:00 pm 
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Lesson 7

Pursuing a career
- Focus on my goals at university
- Work a little everyday to learn new things
- Find jobs that I am interested in and apply
- Understand that I can change my mind if I realise I do not enjoy the route I have chosen
- Accept that you have to start at the bottom and work up
- Network

Being dependable
- Respond to peoples emails/calls/texts
- Volunteer to help people
- Go the extra mile for people to show I care
- Realise I also need time for myself and not get carried away with helping others

Improving my social interactions
- Ask friends about their lives and not shying away
- Ask friends to take part in activities with me rather than being passive
- Open up about what I enjoy doing

Communicating feelings
- Tell people how I feel
- Realise it’s ok to tell friends and family my feelings
- Express interest in those I wish to further a relationship with
- Let people see the real me by sharing thoughts and feelings

Sexual intimacy
- Pursue meaningful relationships
- Do not chase meaningless sex as a form of intimacy
- realise sex does not equal love
- Spend time getting to know someone
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Integrity
- Actively committing to goals by making manageable plans
- Not trying to start too many things at once
- Realise small changes each day add up to big changes later
- Begin things I will finish

Intellectual growth and communication
- Focus on learning new skills and gaining more knowledge
- practice my communication skills regularly


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 09, 2018 4:40 pm 
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Lesson 10

1. I don't think I am deceiving anyone in my life.

2. N/A

3. N/A

4. I don't have anything stashed anywhere. I do however use porn and will list this;
Internet - searching for porn sites
iPhone - downloading apps that lead to porn use such as reddit and tinder.

5. N/A

6. Bedroom and the internet is where I act out my compulsive behaviour.


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