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PostPosted: Mon Jan 09, 2017 9:22 am 
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Lesson 53:
A. Describe a situation where you would consider masturbation to be against your values — and therefore, a destructive act. Describe a situation where you would consider masturbating to be within your values — and therefore, a healthy act.

Right now for instance since I have ibs and masturbation exuberates the symptoms. When my stomach calms down or I cant sleep for several nights and it becomes the lesser evil when drugs is the only other option.

B. In your recovery thread, list other common value conflicts involving sexual and/or romantic behavior that you have found yourself engaged in? Or that you may find yourself engaged in, given your history.

Fantasizing
Peeking at women online
Listening to audio porn


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 12, 2017 9:22 am 
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Lesson 54:
A. Select a VALUE-BASED decision that you have made in the past year. What were some NEGATIVE consequences that resulted from that decision?

A:
I had the opportunity to masturbate to porn when my fiancée was at practice. Because of the value of practice love and devotion to her as well as balance, health and discipline I chose not to. The negative consequences was short term emotional discomfort as well as feeling a little blue.

B. Select an EMOTION-BASED decision that you have made in the past year. What were some POSITIVE consequences that resulted from that decision?

B:
I decided to do some drugs because I felt I deserved it after 6 months of abstinence. The positive consequences was euphoria, connection and deeper learning about myself.


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 17, 2017 1:59 pm 
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Lesson 57:

Situation:
I get blindsided by a porn add and flashed with porn. I react with fear and deny the urge immediately. This gives the urge power and strength. I go from 0 to 100 In just 2 seconds. The anxiety is high.

Option 1:
Close the window and focus on something else.

Consequence:
High anxiety with a little personal growth. Urge may be stronger and harder to handle next time.


Option 2:

Feel the urge fully and know that is finite. Don’t be afraid of it. Use my values to gain emotional stimulation instead. Be proud of myself for further strengthening my values.

The consequence of this action is a step forward towards the life I deserve without objectification and sexualisation of women and environment. By using and strengthening my values the next urge will be easier to manage than using distraction only.

Option 3:
Justify watching more and even do pmo because I have managed over dobble the amount of time since last relapse.

The consequence here would be a step back in terms of my addiction and even have a destructive force on my values and sense of self.


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