Recovery Nation

Personal Development Forum
It is currently Sun Sep 20, 2020 1:49 am

All times are UTC - 5 hours




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 3 posts ] 
Author Message
PostPosted: Thu Dec 15, 2016 4:26 pm 
Offline

Joined: Fri Jul 15, 2016 12:22 pm
Posts: 1
1) actively committing yourself to change:
I have committed myself to change. I began seeking treatment 6 months ago because I hit bottom. In that time I have found success in not acting on my compulsions. I have gone back and begun to realized that my actions fueled by un-recognized/un-resolved childhood trauma and early exposure to sexual material. I have recognized how these same types of behaviors had serious adverse effects on my father’s live as well as my own. I realize and accept that without becoming healthy I will suffer the same fate. I do not want to be that person. I want to be the person that I was intended to be and honest, loving, genuine person. I am doing this for me and me alone. Failure is NOT an option. I am resolute.

2) not allowing guilt/shame to sabotage your commitment to change
I have made good progress in this area. This was the first area that I worked on with my therapist. I have let guilt and shame influence my decisions most of my life. I have forgiven myself. I have had many challenges over the past 6 months. I have had feelings of guilt and shame but I have been successful in not letting those feelings influence my actions in a negative way. I realize that if I do I will start a negative feedback loop that could easily send me back into giving into my addiction and compulsive behaviors.

3) Allowing yourself time to change.
Here I have struggled. I am impatient and want to be better now. I have fallen into the trap of allowing myself to believe I am further along in my recovery than I actually am a few times. I start to feel good and I start to believe I am good. I’m getting better with this but I still get ahead of myself. When I do realize I get too far ahead I have not let that realization lead back into giving into my addiction but they still feel like setbacks/bumps in the road. I need to work on remaining realistic about my progress.

Look deep inside and list ten to fifteen reasons why you seek to permanently change your life.
I want real loving relationships with my wife (and all people)
I want to be a good husband to my wife
I want to be a genuine person
I want to bring love into the world
I want to be healthy
I want to be truly happy
I want to be transparent (no lies, no secrets)
I want to be peaceful
I want to be a person who acts based on my values
I want to have defined boundaries
I want to be courageous (unafraid)
I want to be OK with being alone
I want to live in the present (not the future or past)
I want to be the person that God created me to be
I want to be me
I want to be accepting of all my feelings (good or bad) and not take action to avoid feeling


Top
 Profile  
 
PostPosted: Sat Dec 17, 2016 10:19 am 
Offline
Recovery Coach

Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2010 8:07 pm
Posts: 3944
Location: UK
Hello Kentalope and welcome to RN
you appear to be peeling back your layers and exposing your addiction
:g: keep that up
if you really do want to improve your life and to recover from your addiction then you are at a good place to make that wish reality
Commit , fully and completely
work through the lessons and understand them , if you miss something ask on the help forum , assistance is always on hand
coaches and mentors are likely to drop by occasionally but if not, don't worry as this is generally a good indicator that you are on the right path

the path is long and difficult but it is well proven and you are not alone
we usually suggest completing about 3 lessons a week but spending time every day posting and reading
get to know your addiction and see yourself with honesty and openness

Quote:
I need to work on remaining realistic about my progress.

remember to work at your own pace and its not a race indeed some consider recovery to be a journey rather than a destination

you will get there when you get there if you want to get there

your reasons for change are generally solid as they are positive and about you
remember the only person that can make these changes is you, so the hard work needs to come from you
looking forwards to reading your posts and wishing you all the best

_________________
Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo


Top
 Profile  
 
PostPosted: Fri Jan 20, 2017 2:42 am 
Offline
Recovery Coach

Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2010 8:07 pm
Posts: 3944
Location: UK
Hello Kent
Quote:
I have committed myself to change.

that commitment must lie elsewhere because it is not in RN
thats OK so long as it is still there :pe:
good luck

_________________
Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 3 posts ] 

All times are UTC - 5 hours


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 17 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Search for:
Jump to:  
Powered by phpBB® Forum Software © phpBB Group