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PostPosted: Fri Jan 06, 2017 12:29 am 

Joined: Mon Jan 02, 2017 3:05 pm
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First Assignment; Why I see to permanently change my life.

I want to be someone who I love and respect.
I want to be absolutely transparent with my wife.
I want to be a role model and proper father figure for my daughter.
I want recover so that I can be someone my parents are proud of.
I want to get better so that I can create stable.
I want to be free of sex addiction so I can spend more times doing the things I love.
I want to recover so I can repair my relationship with my wife.
I want to live honestly and sleep guilt free.
I want to recover to fulfill the promises I have made.
I want to care for other people and put my loved ones before myself.

PostPosted: Mon Jan 16, 2017 1:29 am 

Joined: Mon Jan 02, 2017 3:05 pm
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Absolutely first in all that I endeavor in my life, is to be true. True to myself, true to my loved ones, and true to everything that I believe. Truth is not always easy for me, especially when lies are more convenient, but I know I must strive for truth to live the life I envision myself leading.

Telling my wife the truth is the most important thing, since building trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, which is the foundation of a healthy family. My wife, and my young family drive my vision. My vision is to be emotionally present, and available for my wife and kids. My vision is to be passionate with my wife and yet respectful of boundaries. My vision is to be a person who everyone can respect, including myself. My vision is to make my home a safe place for my family, and be a person my family can feel safe with. My vision is to be a person who lives for his loved ones, and not just for himself.

PostPosted: Fri Jan 20, 2017 2:49 am 
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Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2010 8:07 pm
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Location: UK
Hello Jack and welcome to RN
If you really do want to improve your life and to recover from your addiction then you are at a good place to make that wish reality
Commit , fully and completely
work through the lessons and understand them , if you miss something ask on the help forum , assistance is always on hand
coaches and mentors are likely to drop by occasionally but if not, don't worry as this is generally a good indicator that you are on the right path

the path is long and difficult but it is well proven and you are not alone
we usually suggest completing about 3 lessons a week but spending time every day posting and reading
get to know your addiction and see yourself with honesty and openness

remember to work at your own pace and its not a race indeed some consider recovery to be a journey rather than a destination

you will get there when you get there if you want to get there

your reasons for change are generally solid as they are positive and about you
remember the only person that can make these changes is you, so the hard work needs to come from you
looking forwards to reading your posts and wishing you all the best

Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo

PostPosted: Thu Jan 26, 2017 12:56 am 

Joined: Mon Jan 02, 2017 3:05 pm
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1) Bringing happiness to my daughter
2) Bringing happiness to my wife
3) Bringing happiness to my parents
4) Being a role model for my daughter
5) Being focused
6) Staying disciplined
7) Maintaining motivation
8) Staying consistent
9) Putting my loved ones before myself
10) Maintain my friendships
11) Taking reasonable risks
12) Staying calm
13) Not letting little things effect me
14) Being content with what I have
15) Listening to the voice inside me
16) Pursuing the things I love to do aggresively
17) Being patient
18) Experience emotions, even negative ones
19) Feeling manly without acting out
20) Having sexual intimacy with my wife
21) Appreciating what I have
22) Recognizing my wifes efforts
23) Being present
24) Telling the truth
25) Being responsible for my actions
26) Being a good teacher for my daughter
27) Recognize that I'm a good person
28) Being a giving person
29) Forgiving when I am wronged
30) Challenging myself
31) Being a reliable partner
32) Being a reliable father
33) Keeping up with fitness
34) Keeping up with grooming
35) Keeping up with correspondence
36) Not taking myself too seriously
37) Allowing myself to be loved
38) Feeling my worth derived from within
39) Continuously growing
40) Always giving love

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