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PostPosted: Sat Aug 18, 2018 7:30 pm 
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Lesson 58 Exercises:

In the morning on weekends

Define Situation : Wake up in the morning on a weekend. Not much to do. Feel bored and don’t want to get out of bed. All of a sudden get an urge to masturbate since nothing else is going on.

Evaluate Option: Read vision, do 20-30 pushups, get up shower.

Consequence of Option I choose: Will align with vision and ground myself with why i do what i do. Get blood pumping and aligns with value of physical health and then starts day off right.


On a Friday night

Define Situation: Come home and have no plans for a friday night. Feel a void and then an urge to masturbate arises.

Evaluate Option: Read vision. Remember values I have in life and where they are leading me. Do 20-30 pushups. Then either hit up a friend or gym.

Consequence of Option I choose: Align with vision. Ground myself then work on my physical vitality. Hitting up my friends will help me work on my relationships as well.


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PostPosted: Sat Sep 01, 2018 6:13 pm 
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Back after some time off on vacation.


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PostPosted: Sat Sep 01, 2018 6:14 pm 
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Lesson 62 Exercise:

Develop three-five 'most-likely' scenarios where you might face relapse. Role play (in your head or with someone you trust) how you will manage these situations.

1. Coming home from work and school exhausted and lull into entertainment in room on bed, then relapse.
2. Waking up on a weekend in the morning with no motive/plan and lull into entertainment in room then relapse.
3. Have no plans on a friday or saturday night. Then spend time in room watching youtube then lull into entertainment and relapse.
4. Procrastinating from work/studying then convince yourself to watch youtube videos etc then slip into relapse.
5. See something triggering in the middle of the day and then look forward and fantasize masturbating and relieving the uncomfortable feeling. Then getting home and immediately relapsing.


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 03, 2018 12:33 pm 
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Lesson 66 Exercise:
a) Consider your perspective towards potential triggers when you were in early recovery. Consider your perspective now. How has this changed?

I saw them as things I had to just sit down and absorb. Feelings that you have to accept. I do still believe that this whole idea of emotional immaturity is correct in that the feelings of mastubrating have overtaken us and we have not developed the maturity to see them for what it is. But this doesn't mean just sitting down. It means seeing them as good things, as things that once we recognize that we are in that pattern, asking yourself why? Then developing plans to take our values and goals in life that lead us to fulfillment and align with our vision and recognize that we are off that path and for a reason. We identify times where we are being taken off our goals and where we need that focus and then work on them. Over time we see as our life improves that there are less urges and triggers and that the more we work on these triggers the less we fear them and again realise that they are the catalyst of leading a fulfilling life.

One of fav lessons, really clicked a lot of things that were learned in the past.

b) List potential triggers for you — that may lead you into a compulsive crisis. How can you shift your perspective of each so that they are not only NOT a threat to your values, but you can actually use these triggers to strengthen those values?

Coming home and being bored and edging to entertainment which leads to masturbating to porn.
We first have to realize that there is no urgency when I come home. Which means that there is no purpose. No vision. No anything. If someone comes home and doesn’t feel great or in line to actually do something, then is it any surprise that they will drown themselves in entertainment and reach for porn. This is exactly what I’ve done. The shift occurs when I realize that WAIT… if I am being lazy, looking at youtube videos etc then something is wrong with the way I’ve managed my day. I need to know what I’m doing, WHY, and how to actually do it. With this purpose in line and I see myself turning to something like porn, I have to recognize that it was me who is slacking in my own life and vision of what I want my life to be. The shift occurs when I say “AHA, I’m slacking and watching youtube videos, let me take a deep breath and align with my values and start going towards what I want in my life”. The overall emphasis is that there must be a shift in why the urge occured. It didn’t just come out of nowhere. When you are entranced and on a vacation, there’s no time to even think about urges. When you have spare time and nothing is happening etc…. Ehhh then they start popping up. But that popping up is a sign that you’re slacking. The same happens when you wake up early in the morning and you have an urge to masturbate. The problem isn’t the urge. The problem happened much earlier than the urge. It happened when you failed to create an actual plan the day prior to what you were gonna do. Don’t blame the urge, blame your management of your life. It’s all on you.


Wrote my answers very raw to dig in. Great lesson, maybe my favourite, clicked a lot of things together.


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 09, 2018 4:06 pm 
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Thoughts - September 9th, 2018

I’m incredibly proud of myself for finishing this workshop. 73 lessons later and we’ve made it. I’ve learned so so much and am truly appreciative of the workshop and all it has taught me.. Although I’ve finished, I recognize that I still have a lot to do and master. The workshop has ended but I will be returning multiple times. I’ve had multiple epiphanies and I have developed a deep understanding of how I’ve brought myself into the hole of addiction and how I can dig myself out.


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PostPosted: Mon Sep 10, 2018 10:58 am 
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WoFB,

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I’m incredibly proud of myself for finishing this workshop.

Congratulations! Such a major achievement to commit to both this workshop and your health. As you're aware, the real work begins now! I'd be curious to read your thoughts on Lesson 65, but as always, your thread, your choice.

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The workshop has ended but I will be returning multiple times.

Indeed, you may find additional tokens of value upon returning. Don't forget the supplemental lessons, slip assessments (may you never need them!), and the community forum as additional resources to explore. You may also consider mentorship. I've learned much about my own recovery by reaching out to others. Regardless of your decisions, may you continue to choose health. May you continue to manage your life as you achieve your vision on built upon your new foundation of values.

Be well, WoFB.

Anon


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