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 Post subject: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 12:36 pm 
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Lesson 1
Why I seek to permanently change my life.

I don’t like who I am.
For my sanity.
For my self esteem
For my family
For my self
For my relationship with God.
For my emotional well being.
So as not to hurt others.
Remove stress.
My overall mental health.
Cleanse my mind of constant sexual thoughts
Cleanse my soul.
I want normalcy in my life.
Im a better person than how I act now.


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 2:12 pm 
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Thank you dear friend...I appreciate your words of encouragement and your kind thoughts and prayers.
I am very engaged in the matter, and i have my wife's support. She is always encouraging me.

I know it will be a battle..Ive never fought anything like this before. It weighs heavlily on me. I know there is a light at the end of this. I hope to see it soon.


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Thu Mar 08, 2012 1:43 pm 
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Lesson 3

I always have thought of myself as a normal kind of guy..yes, with some issues, but certainly none that would consume my life or how I live it..i consider myself in most points or circumstances absolutely normal..never have I felt to be an oddball or unusual. I have always felt I have fit in well in society, and I believe society as a whole tolerates me, as I tolerate society the best I can. I am a hard working man, I am responsible in most areas that are important in society today. I believe myself to have a moral compass, mostly because of my Christian faith. I care for others I am sympathetic, I empathize with people, I try to understand others sometimes, more than I try to understand myself. I love my family, both my blood family and thru marriage. I try always to look at people in a positive way, even If I sometimes have difficulty understanding portions of their character, or the way they do things. I have a high tolerance to others, as to not provoke them into thinking badly about me. Im kinda like “Raymond”..i want to be loved too…But of course there are some individuals who are very hard to love..but I try. I love this world which God has given us..I believe we are a blessed people on this earth. I count myself a fortunate man, with a descent job, and the ability to support my wife, and family in whatever way is feasible. Things could be better..i guess we always think that..but, they could be much much worse. I love life, and what it has to offer.
The life I have lead has been quite a bumpy road…rough childhood. Growing up I saw much abuse..Not so much for me, but for my dear mother. She was a saint. Of course at the time, I did not realize how much of a saint she was until I was older. It wasn’t until I finally left the home to join the service that I appreciated many things done for me growing up. I can even attribute some of my “better” qualities to my father, and some of my worst qualities to him as well..but that is history..Life from my early 20’s thru today has never been what I would say is “easy streak”..but it has not been the worst life one could live either. I managed to go to school and earn a degree, be employed most of my life, and make enough to support everyone. I learned also…and i am learning this much more each day, that we all have our limitations..(I don’t care what Joel Osteens says)..i have understood more and more that I do have limitations in the capacity to understand, to learn, to love, to grow, to function in this world.
I grew up with “spiritual” guidance, but that came only from the catholic church and catholic school. For that..I have always been thankful..My parents, esp my mother, would instill “ethics” but I never ever ever experienced true spiritual guidance from my mom and dad..even though I was made to go to church every Sunday for mass, dad would be home in bed, and for the most part my mom would be working. I never understood this, but I just accepted it..i didn’t ask questions. So that is a quick brief synopsis of where I have been..i could type for hours.
The life I want to lead is one that I would be able to hold my head up high..and say..MAN..I LEAD A GOOD LIFE !! I DID THIS AND THAT AND EVERYONE LOVED ME AND THERE WERE A LOT OF PEOPLE AT MY FUNERAL, AND GHEE, I SURE WAS APPRECIATED IN THE COMMUNITY. AND GOSH, EVERYONE AT WORK THOUGHT I WAS JUST WONDERFUL..AND BOY, AM I GOING TO BE MISSED BY ALL !! Then a month after your are dead and gone, nobody is that strung out over your demise..Their lives go on..of course as they should. I want to lead a life that “might” inspire someone else to live a better life. Im not that inspirational of a person. I don’t like the spotlight. I usually maintain a low profile.. I don’t know if it is because its my nature, or just that I don’t have a whole lot to say, or I don’t want to get too involved in something. In certain area of my life, I am kind of lazy…I don’t like to take up “causes” too much or get saturated in them. Maybe someday I will..just feel like I don’t have the time, and also, if my wife did not feel the same fire for something as I did, it would cause more of a problem on the home front, than what it’s worth fighting the particular cause or movement. I WANT to lead a life that will make me feel satisfied deep in my soul..and I know I have limitations to do many things..I am not the most talented person in the world..In some way I hope I can have even a slight impact on making someone else’s life better. Starting with my family of course…I don’t want them to see me, my mistakes, my failures, my disappointments, my secrets. All these are not inspiring, and are mostly horrible aspects of my life. I want them to see a positive father, who in some way, may make them better daughters, or even better brothers. I can do my best to lead a moral life, and hope it will translate into the lives of my family..that they would also aspire to do the same thing. My blood family is notorious for having issues..but, we somehow work and live our lives around them..Seeming to always have a positive ending, or better than anticipated outcome.
My legacy I want to leave is a simple one..I am assuming my legacy is something I would want to be embedded into the minds of the people who know me, so that when my name is mentioned in conversation, that person would have a single thought about me, whether it is good or bad..of course I want it to be good. A legacy is something that is many times inscribed on a tombstone or headstone of a grave..I am a simple kind of guy, so I would probably want a simple message on my tombstone..”Here lies WW100..an upright man in the eyes of all, and in the eyes of God”..


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2012 12:48 pm 
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3. THE ROLE OF VALUES
1. Living a life pleasing to God
2. Honor all vowels, promises, and commitments
3. be a role model to family
4. be a role model to others/friends
5. be a role model to strangers
6. live a wholesome life
7. find only the good in others
8. live healthy
9. have a can do attitude in all I do
10. show happiness in my life
11. stick to goals..dont surrender
12. accept who I am
13, don’t accept what I have become
14. see the light
15. always move forward..
16. stop when I am tired…don’t worry what others may think
17. accept responsibility better
18. try to mature more
19. enjoy God’s gifts
20. be compassionate to others
21. do more according to Book of James
22. always be humble
23. do not covet
24. be content with what I have
25. pray and meditate each morning
26. believe my prayers will be answered
27. trust God more than people
28. accept people for who they are
29. don’t make mountains out of molehills
30. reject negative thoughts
31. look inside of other people for their gifts and talents
32. Don’t look at the superficial
33. aspire to do more than the day before
34. live within my means and be thankful
35. accept things which I cannot ever have a chance of changing..work around it
36. think before I speak
37. keep reminding myself of who controls everything
38. be more generous with my time and resources
39. be more willing to help those who cannot help themselves
40. to remember lying besets more lying
41. be graceful and kind when others hurt you unintentionally
42. eat right
43. exercise
44. get enough sleep
45. focus daily on living healthy
46. hope always for the best
47. respect others feelings
48. ask forgiveness when required
49. forgive and forget
50. be more passionate about things that are important
51. quit procrastinating
52. take more of life’s trials as part of the living experience


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
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MY TOP 15 VALUES
1. Living a life pleasing to God
2. Honor all vowels, promises, and commitments
3. be a role model to family
4. be a role model to others/friends
5. be a role model to strangers
6. live a wholesome life
7. find only the good in others
8. live healthy
9. have a can do attitude in all I do
10. Manifest happiness in my life
11. stick to goals..dont surrender
12. accept who I am
13, don’t accept what I have become
14. see the light
15. always move forward..


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Tue Mar 27, 2012 4:05 pm 
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Hi again wounded warrior
great to see a deal of effort and thought went into your life vision
well done
remember that it is and should be a work in progress so add to it as you progress, this you will find is beneficial
keep it up :g: :g:

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:25 pm 
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Thank you for the kind words. This is one of the hardest things I have ever attempted. I think I'd rather write an undergraduate term paper, or even a doctorial thesis...But it is making me think more..... than just thinking "about myself", and my own desires.


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Thu Mar 29, 2012 12:28 pm 
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Pro Active Action Plan 1:

Virtue 10. MANIFEST HAPPINESS IN MY LIFE
Awake each morning thanking God for His goodness towards me.
Appreciate the good night of sleep I had
Look forward to my day’s activities
Approach my day pessimistically
Expect good things to happen throughout my day
Look forward to future activities and events
Show zeal in my actions
Do not take even the smallest tasks lightly, someone may be depending on me
In ALL THINGS, be content with what has been provided
Thank God for even the “not so good things” that I must encounter. They build character.
Realize..”Do people really care if I’m unhappy?” Most people don’t give a rat’s ass. So you may as well Be Happy !!!

Virtue 7 FIND ONLY THE GOOD IN OTHERS
Realize all men and women are created in the image and likeness of God
Judge not, that ye be not judged
Remove my critical thought process as I walk out the door each day
Try to look at others as God would look at them
Accept others as they are, not what I want them to be, God can change them..I cant
God did not create all of us the same..so don’t expect somebody to act like u want them to.
Tell myself..”This person is very special..I may not see it now, but I know they are special to God and His plan.
When I see their good points, I will tell them about them..People love compliments


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Thu Apr 05, 2012 11:13 am 
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LESSON 7

PRO ACTIVE PLANS 2

Living a Life Pleasing to God
Pray daily..the more the better
Understand God is within me His Holy Spirit
WWJD
Attend church when door is open. Don’t make excuses.
Love God like I did when I first became a Christian
Look at others as I know our Lord would look at them
Have daily devotions
Acknowledge God is in control over all aspects of my life, even the simplest
Trust Him in prayer and supplication
Don’t always expect the answers that I want
Put God first in my life
Never get mad with God over my own faults and failures, only I am to blame
Know that if God is for me, who can be against me.

Honor all vowels, promises, and commitments
Accept my responsibilities as husband and father, and friend
Don’t let the flesh over-rule the spirit
Remind myself again and again, people depend on me, and to let them down would be catastrophic at some point or another
Give those to whom I have made a promise, reassurance.
Live and be happy with promises and vowels I have made
Find a way to not be regretful of commitments I made, and that my flesh does not or may not want to keep.

Be a role model to the family
Live within my Christian values system
Understand my family knows me better than anyone else. Don’t try to “fool” them
Pray for them…daily
Don’t try for perfection, but be real to them.
Don’t be afraid to let them see my failures, and at the same time, let them see how God can lift us above and beyond where we have failed
Always kind words for my family, even in disappointment
Love them as God loves us.
Give Godly advice to the family without preaching, and let the holy Spirit speak to them.





Be a role model to friends
Love them as God would love us
Learn from them.
Accept them, failures and all
Tell them they are special
Be there for them when they have a need. Remember the Book of James.
Let Christ’s life shine thru me, even with my faults.
Never judge them ,lest I be judged as well
Mentor them if I think it would be helpful and they are willing to accept this help
Keep short accounts with my friends..
Don’t be nosey unless it is something they want to share with me, then be discreet
Be merciful to them when they fail you..remember..short accounts

Be a role model to strangers
Love them as God would love us
Listen
Show kindness, and caring
Put yourself in their shoes, esp. if they are in a plight
Care more for them than myself
Be generous with them
Have the hope that they see Christ thru me. There is something different about me.
Smile at them.

Live a wholesome life
Pray daily
Read scriptures daily
Be pure and honest in word and deed
Care for others more than myself
Be generous with those in need
Don’t be secretive
Keep my mind clean of evil thoughts
Concentrate more on pureness and goodness, and not the world or the things
contained within

Find Only the good in others
Realize all men and women are created in the image and likeness of GodJudge not, that ye be not judged
Remove my critical thought process as I walk out the door each day
Try to look at others as God would look at them
Accept others as they are, not what I want them to be, God can change them..I cant
God did not create all of us the same..so don’t expect somebody to act like u want them to.
Tell myself..”This person is very special..I may not see it now, but I know they are special to God and His plan.
When I see their good points, I will tell them about them..People love compliments

Live Healthy
Exercise my mind
Exercise my body
Exercise my spirit

Manifest happiness in my life
Awake each morning thanking God for His goodness towards me.
Appreciate the good night of sleep I had
Look forward to my day’s activities
Approach my day pessimistically
Expect good things to happen throughout my day
Look forward to future activities and events
Show zeal in my actions
Do not take even the smallest tasks lightly, someone may be depending on me
In ALL THINGS, be content with what has been provided
Thank God for even the “not so good things” that I must encounter. They build character.
Realize..”Do people really care if I’m unhappy?” Most people don’t give a rat’s ass. So I may as well Be Happy !!!


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 Post subject: Re: Warrior Thread
PostPosted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 3:05 pm 
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Exercises for Lesson 10

Computer Room Pictures hidden under Work Document Files
Favorites on computer tagged as Sports web sites, that are actually pornographic
Porn DVD’s disguised as any other genre of DVD entertainment.
Rubbers hidden in office desk for masturbation.

Romantic Objects

Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue Magazine in bedroom
Cheerleader watching at sporting events

Places

Car..privacy for masturbation
Swimming pools, fantasizing/possible exhibitionism
Parking lots..looking to masturbate beside parked vehicles with girls inside


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