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PostPosted: Tue Jul 26, 2016 11:57 am 
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Hi, i was, no, we were going through the R/N workshops. I came clean about many things I kept secret from everyone in my life. This includes what I looked at online. This did not include the non-porn and that it just replaced the porn. She went ballistic. She now says we are done. What can I do? Is this a part of recovery what I did? I feel helpless and self worth is ZERO. I feel that I can not do this without her support.


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 26, 2016 12:41 pm 
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Hello Tyrion
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What can I do? Is this a part of recovery what I did? I feel helpless and self worth is ZERO. I feel that I can not do this without her support.



of course you feel like s*** but that is the awakening, the admittance that what you do as an addict is s***
what can you do?

start the recovery programme
do it with honesty, commitment and determination
do it on your own? of course you can indeed must
why?
because you need to do it for you
lets be frank and fair as acting out sex addicts we truly do not deserve the love and support of those partners that we have lied to , hurt and in some part destroyed
but in recovering we / you can make good, rebuild, make amends, prove worth

will the relationship survive, that is NOT down to you
can you build a healthy relationship first with yourself and then with another, that IS down to you

so why wait, decide that you can and will do this at whatever cost and then get on and do it

What do you have to lose?

Choose wisely

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo


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