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 Post subject: Lesson 1 Responses
PostPosted: Mon Jun 26, 2017 5:25 pm 
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1) Actively committing yourself to change
I have had the desire to change for a long time. At first I thought it was for myself, but then I realized that I only felt guilty after I had done the deeds; as soon as I asked God for forgiveness and cleared my browser history, the “desire” left. I now am motivated to recover from this pornography and self-gratification addiction because I no longer want to be bound by sin. Serving God is my first priority, and Romans 12:1-2 says that followers of Christ are supposed to submit themselves as a living sacrifice. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 also says that we were bought with a price so we should honor God with our bodies. That includes all urges my body experiences, no matter how strong. With His strength, I want to actively pursue righteousness by following Scripture and working through this program to break the bonds of this addiction for myself, my God, and for the sake of my soul.

2) Not allowing guilt/shame to sabotage your commitment to change
Satan desires for me to dwell and wallow in guilt and shame; he uses these emotions to make me feel like I’m unworthy to be a child of God. Though I should be remorseful of my sin against God and be convicted to repent, it shouldn’t control my desire to change. Feelings like guilt and shame are temporary. As I stated in question 1, the moment I’ve tried to beg for forgiveness and laid out my sins to God, those feelings will subside when I feel like God has heard my plea. These feeling can also give me the mentality of “oh well, I’ve already messed up this many times, there’s no point in trying to stop now.” Though all have sinned and fallen short of God’s glory (Romans 3:23), Romans 8:33-34 says that He intercedes on our behalf when we accept His free gift of salvation and faithfully follow Him. Letting His words lavish me in love will help turn away these feelings and instead help me to focus on continuing in the recovery process.
3) Allowing yourself time to change
This is going to be a challenge for me. I’m impatient when I desire to see results in my spiritual life; if I had it my way, I would snap my fingers and be as sinless as Christ! But reminding myself that I’m an imperfect human being who desperately needs a perfect God and that HE is patient with me when I’m not will be my comfort on the days that I don’t do so well in the recovery process. I have to tell myself daily that getting over addiction is a process, beating myself up when I fall into temptation won’t solve the issue, and it’s something God is going to use to grow me in my faith.

Reasons for Motivation

1. I want live in freedom from the bondage of pornography and self gratification.
2. I want to be able to look at media as a tool not to be abused.
3. I want to stop feeling like I'm on an emotional rollercoaster all of the time due to the affects of this addiction.
4. I want to be a better leader in my church family.
5. I don't want to feel "dirty" anymore after I do this.
6. I don't want this to trigger memories of my abuse anymore.
7. I want to have a clear conscience when I teach others about Christ.
8. I want to feel freedom in being able to discipline the way my body feels and not succumb to Satan's lies that I must fulfill it's desires in order for my body to function well.
9. I want to help other girls who are facing the same struggles.
10. I want to change the way that I look at my body; a temple of the Holy Spirit vs. something I have to serve.


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 Post subject: Re: Lesson 1 Responses
PostPosted: Tue Jun 27, 2017 5:14 am 
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Hello JS
and welcome to RN
if you really do want to improve your life and to recover from your addiction then you are at a good place to make that wish reality
Commit , fully and completely
work through the lessons and understand them , if you miss something ask on the help forum , assistance is always on hand
coaches and mentors are likely to drop by occasionally but if not, don't worry as this is generally a good indicator that you are on the right path

the path is long and difficult but it is well proven and you are not alone
we usually suggest completing about 3 lessons a week but spending time every day posting and reading
get to know your addiction and see yourself with honesty and openness

remember to work at your own pace and its not a race indeed some consider recovery to be a journey rather than a destination

RN helps and guides just as does spiritual belief and conviction but do remember the only person that can make these changes is you, so the hard work needs to come from you, you need to do this for you, after that everything and everyone in your life benefits from knowing a healthy honest you
looking forwards to reading your posts and wishing you all the best

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
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 Post subject: Re: Lesson 1 Responses
PostPosted: Tue Sep 12, 2017 1:49 pm 
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JS
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I want to actively pursue righteousness by following Scripture and working through this program to break the bonds of this addiction for myself, my God, and for the sake of my soul.

remember writing this?

sorry but cannot see that active commitment
what do you have to lose?

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo


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