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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2019 11:43 am 
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Lesson 1 Exercises:

A. Three keys to establishing a successful foundation for permanent change in early recovery are:
1) actively committing yourself to change

I am currently in the passive stage of recovery. I am reading a lot of material on addiction and specifically sexual addiction. I have started this program and have started weekly sessions with a counselor, but I still cannot see my world without my addictions. I do however have the desire to actively commit to change.

2) not allowing guilt/shame to sabotage your commitment to change

Guilt and especially shame are two issues that I am dealing with at the moment. I have an understanding that I must take pride in myself and the steps that I am taking to recover, but the shame of the pain my actions have caused is hard to overcome at the moment.

3) allowing yourself time to change.

This will be a challenge for me. When I buy into a new thought or concept, I tend to obsess with it and want to complete the learning as quickly as possible. I do realize that I cannot rush through this process and need to give it the proper time to take hold.

B. Beyond an active commitment to change, another important factor in determining your ultimate success is your motivation

I want more intimacy and honesty with my wife.
I want to confide in my wife without fear of rejection.
I want to be in control of my life and not let my addictions control me.
I want to focus my sexual energy on my wife.
I want to find enjoyment in things again like reading, astronomy, golf, sporting events.
I want to enjoy living in the moment not obsessing on my addictions.
I want to feel all of my emotions and not suppress some by using my addictions.
I want to take a more active roll in my family's lives.
I want to take my own health more seriously.
I want my addictions to stop interfering with my work.

C. Looking at a picture from your childhood.

Looking at the picture from when I was around 3 years old reminded me of the innocence of that age. It was shortly after this age that I began to worry and have anxiety over many things in my life.
I was not receiving the emotional support from my parents, especially my mother and began to develop unhealthy ways of dealing with this anxiety.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2019 12:35 pm 
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Hi WH and welcome to RN.

If you really do want to improve your life and to recover from your compulsive behaviours then you are at a good place to make that a reality
To achieve recovery then commit , fully and completely

Work through the lessons and understand them , if you miss something ask on the help forum, assistance is always on hand, this community is supportive to those who demonstrate sincerity in their journey

Coaches and mentors are likely to drop by occasionally but if not, don't worry as this is generally a good indicator that you are on the right path, you have not been abandoned

The path is long and difficult but it is well proven and you are not alone, many have taken the path successfully, be open be honest, nobody here will judge you
get to know your addiction and see yourself with honesty and openness

Remember to work at your own pace and its not a race indeed some consider recovery to be a journey rather than a destination

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PostPosted: Fri Mar 15, 2019 7:00 am 
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Hello
Wanthelp, do you ?
Quote:
I am currently in the passive stage of recovery. I am reading a lot of material on addiction and specifically sexual addiction. I have started this program and have started weekly sessions with a counselor, but I still cannot see my world without my addictions. I do however have the desire to actively commit to change.


there is no prerequisite to post but the benefits are there to be seen and are demonstrated time over in individual member threads

why not jump in and turn passive to active?

This programme works but only if you make it do so :pe: :pe: :pe:

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
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PostPosted: Wed Apr 17, 2019 3:58 am 
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Do you want help?

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This programme works but only if you make it do so :pe: :pe: :pe:


it has been a while??????????????
what do you have to lose?

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Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
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