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PostPosted: Sun Apr 01, 2018 3:21 am 
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I ran this plus L2R,s post that prompted it past the best "sounding board" that I know
my ex

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we cannot change the fact that we were the bad guys and thus must expect that there will be triggers for our SO,s to recall this fact


her comment and of course this was directed only towards me, was that I am too sensitive
I take all comments in particular those with any semblance of negativity to heart

I need to learn to simply take it on the chin and move on

I wonder is this a trait of the low self esteem and the need for attention / appreciation still lingering on?
If so is this "normal"?
do I need to set a boundary / action plan?
perhaps a question for the community but first as always I need to analyse this (if indeed there is anything to analyse ) further

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PostPosted: Thu Apr 05, 2018 4:50 am 
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I posted recently
Where are we?
Then What are we?

I followed up by discussing communication including communication with oneself
This requires us to peel back our layers to expose our core, then examination and analysis with complete honesty
Over my time here I have done this many times,in the early days toing and froing between admission and denial, but gradually exposing and accepting and thus am in the position of answering a probing but fundamentally important question

What/Who was I?

Prior to my D day of more than 8 years ago I was a raging sex addict

I was full of self loathing and self hatred, had low self esteem, limited values, no self respect and limited selective respect of others.
I was selfish, reckless, without honour or morals

I was a failure, a loser with some of the outwardly visible trappings of a good and success man. What a sham, yet the incredible yet absolute unbelievable truth is that I did not, or rather chose not to see this

My life consisted of many compartmentalised sections / elements each with varying degrees of importance and intensity, but when it came to “stick and lift” sex took precedence over all.

Sex in many forms as itemised previously herein
Sex at whatever cost or consequence
I risked my life and much worse the life of my wife and family
I did not reflect, I simply selfishly and weakly acted upon my urges

Now here is a strange thing, I cannot actually recall or even describe a pre D day urge, but I know they must have been there, because they were post D day, after I actually started to open my mind to a serious problem, previously denied, ignored, hidden, minimised...........
However urges or not, real or imagined, fact or excuse, I chose to destroy our lives, I was not forced into it, I was a weak selfish c***

I was reckless risking all for nothing

At and in the early days post D day I was a lying, cheating undeserving wretch, sliding without even seeing it, ever deeper into the chasm of self inflicted evil, wanting more, wanting more often, desperate to act out

I say wretch, not seeking sympathy or empathy, I chose to be that wretch, the fault and blame are /were mine and mine alone, more than I can say for those whose memories and lives I destroyed on the way, they had no choice, again demonstrating my egoistic narcissism that I empowered, protected and likely cherished

I was a reasonably intelligent and educated man, employed in a responsible management position, well travelled, and often cited as one being capable of seeing a logical path through complex situations, but I could not or perhaps more likely chose not to see myself

When I did start to open my eyes, I still denied, lied, made excuses and minimised, I protected the very thing that took and destroyed my life, me, the addicted, selfish, cruel evil me

When COACH JON reached this early but significant point in his journey he wrote the following quotes,

I believe that these few words speak volumes and hence have no need of further comment

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What I believed: "I will never be able to get past this. It will effect me for the rest of my life."

Truth: It has effected me for the rest of my life, but in a way that was completely different than I had anticipated. I believed that I would forever be a slave to my compulsions--and would thus miss out on the love and companionship that comes from a committed relationship. Instead, my overcoming these patterns have allowed me to cherish my values on an extraordinary level. I experience life with a passion and a child-like awe that I rarely see in others. I liken it to a near death experience. My life was over. Plain and simple. In my mind, I was defective and doomed to live a compulsive life forever. A miserable life. Then, when I realized that I was wrong, it was like being born again.
The essence of this statement sowed the seed of my commitment to change and do this for me

What I believed: "I can't help myself. I want to stop, but I'm just not able to."

Truth: Not only could I help myself, but it was rather easy once I made the commitment to doing so. The hardest part was in admitting to myself that I really was in control. That I had to take responsibility for my own life. And as for "wanting to stop, but not being able to..." Well, let's just say that in hindsight, it wasn't that I wanted to stop the behavior. What I wanted to stop was the negative consequences that were associated with the behavior. Once I realized this, stopping the behavior was simple.

What I believed: "I'm weak."

Truth: I wasn't weak, I was ignorant. There is a world of difference. With weakness, you are faced with two choices and consistently choose the easiest. With my compulsive behavior, it never really felt like I had a choice. It felt rather that I was going to act--that I had to act--eventually. With knowledge came the reality that I did have a choice. And that both choices (to act; not to act) came with positive emotions. It was up to me to consider which positive emotions would best help me become the person that I wanted to be.

What I believed: "There is something wrong with me."

Truth: There was something wrong with me. But it wasn't some unbridled disease running rampant throughout my brain...what was wrong with me is that I hadn't learned to truly understand my values and I wasn't mature enough to develop them on my own. I was "behavior-based", rather than "value-based". And such a life tends to drive people away from their values, not towards them.


So on and after April 29th 2010, that is the Kenzo that was

Today I own him, his past, his history, his failings, his guilt and shame are mine, but I am not him
RN saved my life,
Thanks Coach J, I am forever indebted

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PostPosted: Tue Apr 10, 2018 4:06 am 
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I posted
Prior to my D day of more than 8 years ago I was a raging sex addict
I was full of self loathing and self hatred, had low self esteem, limited values, no self respect and limited selective respect of others
I was a failure, a loser

OK that is who and where I was but how did I get there?

From the innocent boy in the photograph to an out of control monster, how, when, why?

The truth is I do not know, perhaps I choose / chose not to know, but I guess the decline was a gradual process, yes interspersed with definite step changes all brought about by decisions made by me, conscious or otherwise, those decisions were my choice.

I read many posts where addicts started as victims of abuse or other external often traumatic incidents
I recall nothing like that in my life, yes I do not recall being loved but I dont recall being unloved either,

I do know that I grew up in a very small community (six kids in my class at school) and at 11 went to a grammar school 30 miles from home with 33 in the class, 4 classes in the year, so I became a bit of a loner, with two sets of “friends” to which I really belonged to neither

Did I seek attention and found it within my “growing” self in puberty and adolescence?
Probably
Did I discover that masturbation was a coping device, without actually realising this as so, or even that I needed or better perceived that I needed, a coping device?

Probably

I know that I had low self esteem, was very shy, found communication difficult, but tried to hide these under a facade of false identity
I could plot and list herein my journey of degeneration from secretly viewing scantily clad models in black and white print through to going for anal sex in a brothel, but it would serve no end

I have analysed that path, in depth and detail with massive pain guilt and shame, but it gets me no closer to the answer of the question
how did I get there?

The truth remains , I do not know, all I know is that I, wrongly, believed that I had no choice, I believed that I was hurting nobody, but was obviously aware that I was doing wrong, or why hide it?
But does that matter?
Actually no
On November 4th 2009 I had my D day
It was, as I have said before the very BEST worst day of my life, it was not rock bottom , that came some weeks later after I had opened my eyes and admitted rather than denied, that I did not have a monster within and controlling me

I was that monster, I used sex as a coping device and decided to change

Easy choice, yes but only on reflection
At the time it was enormous, but truthfully no matter how difficult and traumatic, compared with the alternative,

:ex: :sat:

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 16, 2018 4:29 am 
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I have posted about communication, IMO a fundamental aspect of recovery, covering communicating with SO,s and others, then to the addicted us,ourselves,

This post covers what I thought would be the most difficult stage of communication, but actually it turned out to be the easiest, perhaps the reason for that is because of the position through the journey of life and of course recovery, that I am now in, that might come over as rather self righteous, but is not meant that way

What would the Kenzo of today have said to the Kenzo of old at various key stages in his life , and would that Kenzo have listened never mind taken on board?


To the boy Kenzo
You are loved
You do have value and are worth so much more than you can actually imagine, strive for, demonstrate and prove that worth
Sex is not a stand alone entity, it is a natural part of life
Experiment by all means, examine your body and your sexuality but remember it is not you, simply a small part of you and your life, live by common values as you evaluate and establish your own personal values
Choose the way that you want to live but do choose wisely, remember that as you grow the will become more responsible and with responsibility comes accountability



To the Kenzo in a relationship
By now you should have grown up , but that is not the case is it?
Wise up and open your mind, put the boy and his “toys” away
You need to because your values are skewed

You are loved and have value, but that value is being eroded and unless you act now , will continue to be eroded by you
Sex has become a stand alone entity for you, that is wrong,it is a natural part of life and love, you slinking off and masturbating, you scanning and fantasizing is not only disrespectful but whether you admit it or not, is harming the both of you, albeit she is oblivious to this fact, how does that sit with you?

You really do need to establish your own values remembering that you are now part of a couple
Choose but do choose wisely, it is not too late – yet!




To the Kenzo using third person real people for sex
You stupid reckless selfish C***
You will get caught
She deserves better, but you, you deserve what you get, the unfortunate fact is that you dont foot the whole bill
Open your eyes, where is your self respect never mind the respect for others
If you choose to continue then you should end the relationship, be honest, it is the least that you can do
Alternatively, face the fact be honest, find help and commit to recovery
Choose but choose wisely


To the Kenzo at D day
You F*****g T**t
So as I told you that you would , you got caught, now you see that you , yes you, f****d it all up.

Yes you have destroyed lives and feel devastated, by becoming and a raging sex addict, a failure and a loser
But it is not too late

You can remain a raging sex addict, a failure and a loser, even though you might be deceitful and manipulative enough to deny this
Or you can recover, own your past and be happy, healthy and fulfilled
You do actually get to make that choice
Choose wisely but choose now



To Kenzo today
I love you and am proud of you
I respect you as you can now finally respect yourself

Do not let yourself down, however, and there is often an however or a but
Dont celebrate too much, you have only done what every addict can do, if they choose to do so and then fully commit to doing it, recovery does not make you a good man

Keep on choosing wisely, remember and live by your values

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2018 4:20 am 
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I posted the question
What would the Kenzo of today have said to the Kenzo of old at various key stages in his life , and would that Kenzo have listened never mind taken on board?

Having envisioned the first half of that question I now consider the second part, would that Kenzo have listened never mind taken on board?

The boy Kenzo
Yes I believe so, he was young and very open to being influenced, negatively as it transpired, but if he had seen where the never fulfilling acts of compulsive sex lead to, I believe he would have not have chosen that path



The Kenzo in a relationship, a difficult one,

This Kenzo did not know what a relationship was and meant, he manipulated relationships for sex, relationships put “sex on tap”
He would have been torn and could have swayed either way, but he did respect age and experience as he demonstrated in his career, so he would have listened but may or may not have taken any notice




To the Kenzo using third person real people for sex
He would have listened or at least paid lip service to listening, he would then have told me to f*** off, He had two small children making demands hence marital sex was much less available, I would have been making a big deal out of nothing, it was simply harmless fun and meant nothing, nobody was getting hurt,



To the Kenzo at D day
He would have listened and then gone on the attack, what did I think he was , a brothel creeper?
He would not have had a problem, he had no problem he would have denied addiction, minimised his actions and lied to protect his “drug of choice”
But then, as he did, he would have reflected and opened his eyes and his mind


To Kenzo today
He would have asked why I was not there at the beginning?
But actually I was, it was I who made the choices, making the Kenzo of old the wretch that he was

I found this series of posts regarding communication and examination as a very exhausting but extremely liberating exercise, looking deep into the abyss and facing the truth helps to provide structure at any junction in the journey of discovery and recovery, Thanks RN for guiding me in finding the courage and conviction to do so
I encourage all who read this, addict or not, to communicate examine reflect and choose, but do choose wisely

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 29, 2018 5:53 am 
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Well that is 8 years herein

I often refer to my D day as being the best worst day of my life
But what if I had not been caught on that day?

The truth is that I would not have seen myself as I was and hence would not have changed, that is until later, because D day would have happened anyway
It could have been brought about in the same way, but there are other alternatives, being worse than the reallity

I, or worse still, my ex could have been diagnosed with an STD
I could have lost my job
The baliffs could have been knocking on the door

Where would I have been without D day?

I dont know but expect that I would still have been acting out , lieing and deneying
I certainly would have had group sex with strangers, hence likely that I would have an STD
I could have been un employed homeless and destitute, pathetically hanging around brothels cleaning showers in the hope of getting a free hand job

But happen it did, and thus it was and will remain the best worst day of my life, followed by 29th April 2010, the day I found RN

8 years, no quick fix, but as was written in the six word story post in the community forum
What a relief, I’ve no secrets

Recovery, just like addiction is simply a matter of choice

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PostPosted: Sat May 05, 2018 4:15 am 
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Change!
I was reflecting upon the changes in my ex's persona since D day
she is no longer the person that I met all of those years ago

however

I remind myself that I was NEVER that person that she believed that I was

reflection brings about perspective

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 06, 2018 8:16 am 
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OK My batteries are re-charged I am back on RN after a 4 weeks sabbatical
I have been away with my ex wife in the country of her birth where the English language is only used by the youth of her country, hence I have had a great deal of time to contemplate
I have thought about life, recovery, love , pain forgiveness, everything and nothing etal
I know that I am no longer sex addict, I am free from that crap, but how do I know?
I have not acted out for more than 8 years
I have not exhibited nor watched porn in that same period
I have not masturbated for some 5 years and have not scanned for circa that same time
I have not had any urges to act out from the start of the recovery process so perhaps I was lucky following my D day, my ride to recovery was not easy but it was not painful

Now to my point
How do I know that I am free ?
It is the same as knowing when you feel any emotion
You know when you feel under the weather, sad, angry, bored, on top of the world, you just know

I also know that I went to the abyss, the depths of deceptive and tracheae and I came back, I will not be the stupid selfish c*** that I was, there is nothing there for me and I realise that actually there never was

Whilst we were away a friend of my ex had a crisis with her still acting out SA partner, this triggered my ex and I suffered the brunt
My initial reaction was why should I be punished for his actions, but I realise and accept that it was my actions that hurt her, she was recalling her own pain caused by me the person to whom she gave her everything and what did I give her??????????
I accept that and take it on the chin

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 06, 2018 7:15 pm 
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Kenzo,

In August of 2016 you wrote a reflection of Lesson 60 and your preparedness for life. You said:
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I was divorced by my ex wife
I have lost one of my parents
I lost my job
I retired
I am in debt
Did these events bring about emotional imbalance tempting me to succumb to any unhealthy activity?
No,
Job done?
I believe so but beware complacency Kenzo
Living a healthy life and being the best that you can be , that is the day job,


Your life management skills have clearly been put to the test; and with skill mastery you overcame quite a list of trials.

As I continue to develop my own life management strategy I constantly find myself reverting back to my values and the boundaries meant to protect them. A brief inquiry for you: How did your top 15 values play a part in your ability to make honest and healthy decisions in the face of immense life stressors? How do you plan to continue applying what worked in the future?

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PostPosted: Fri Jun 08, 2018 6:17 am 
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Hello Anon
thanks for dropping in and thanks more for deciding to change your status to become a mentor
You will benefit from helping others with your own experiences I know that I did and do

you said

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Your life management skills have clearly been put to the test; and with skill mastery you overcame quite a list of trials.


and asked
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How did your top 15 values play a part in your ability to make honest and healthy decisions in the face of immense life stressors? How do you plan to continue applying what worked in the future?


great question
my quick response remains as it was noted back then
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Living a healthy life and being the best that you can be , that is the day job,


I do not consider that I have a mastery of life skills but I do live through my values and those values are now entrenched into the epicentre of my being
I value relationships
I value the relationship that I have with myself, loving not loathing
respecting not hurting
I value my relationship with the woman whom I almost selfishly destroyed
I value my anonymous relationships here on RN as I have said before this programme saved my life

That is the short version, and I am sure that there is more, perhaps to be opened in the community forum

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2018 4:25 am 
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Anon said
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Your life management skills have clearly been put to the test; and with skill mastery you overcame quite a list of trials
.

I replied
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I do not consider that I have a mastery of life skills but I do live through my values and those values are now entrenched into the epicentre of my being


I deal with life and the ensuing events thrown up, both good and bad
Addiction in all forms is simply a crutch, an excuse , remove the addiction, the compulsive need and get on with life, its a very simple principle

I believe that I always had values, but emotions, good and bad, provided me with the excuse to feed the thing that ruled me and controlled my life, I had urges that “I needed” to satisfy but only because I allowed them to exist, they seemed real but really they were not

I had a successful career, I managed my own and others work schedules and targets, perhaps too well as I always managed to fit in the visits to brothels
I provided my family with all of their material needs but failed miserably with what really matters, honesty, faithfulness, commitment ..........................................

Anon said that I overcame quite a list of trials but in reality my ex overcame so much more and she did not need the crutch
She had many knocks before meeting me and then a real kick in the guts when she discovered that the man she loved was not the man she thought he was

Man?, she has more balls than I could dream of having in dealing with reality, she told me recently that going through her healing was and is the hardest thing she had to do in her life and she has had traumas that I will not list or detail but so much more that I

She, like most partners are shining beacons of hope and example of living to her/their values, we should not feed from them but we should try to match their honour , dignity, etal

Recovery is discovery but those healing are the heroes

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 02, 2018 4:35 am 
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Honesty
My dishonesty cost me my marriage and probably caused more pain to my ex than did my addiction, hence in recovery and in life, honesty is now sacrasent, however it can bring about issues

I awoke recently and found my ex in my arms naked as she was born, I continued cuddling her until she woke up whereupon I said “I like it when you are bare golly (nude)
She immediately and understandably reacted saying that of course I would as all the whores that I f***** would be naked
She had missed the point

My reason for my comment was that because she had got into bed with me naked it demonstrated to me a level of trust, she had trusted me not to try to take advantage of her nudity or to abuse her body

My point in posting
I am and will be honest, but do I need to consider the effect of my honesty before I speak?
To me withholding is dishonest hence not vocalising what is in my head is wrong, however I do realise that whilst she is healing there are triggers that remind her of what I was and what I did,
Think before you speak is a good adage , but is it tending towards withholding?

I own my past, I need to

But does she need to?

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 11, 2018 7:06 am 
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Quote:
If I DO fully commit to my recovery then these cravings will fade into teh distance or even dissapear.


I took these words from another member’s thread, I was going to respond directly and possibly still will but the words got me thinking
Why would an addict not commit fully to recovery?
Initial response is denial
I am not addicted, I can stop this at any time and one more (whatever the drug of choice may be ) cannot harm
Then the thoughts turn to
It’s only a bit of fun, excitement, relief, it does not harm anybody, which again is a denial
I travelled the ever descending path of self destruction where what satisfied my cravings today was more than was required yesterday and would not suffice tomorrow , I convinced myself that because she did not know she was not being hurt
What did my acting out give me?
Sex on tap with no expectation of anything from me,
A crutch to support my emotions, both positive as well as negative
A secret me that was mine alone, a fantasy
And what was the value in any of that?

SFA

So there are two choices
Recovery or Self destruction taking others down with you
So do not say If I DO fully commit to my recovery
Say I DO fully commit to my recovery and will recover in order to actually have some self love and respect which has so much more value than acting out ever could have

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PostPosted: Tue Jul 17, 2018 6:51 am 
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Addiction is a way of life, but it is not living

Of course I can only speak for myself but I suspect that what applies to me also applies in some way to most if not all addicts

Addiction is a way of life, not as I thought pre recovery, simply a part of a way of life
I believed that life was compartmentalised, that my acting out was separated from my love filled marital relationship , my paternal relationship and my professional relationship

But I know that I was simply denying the fact that addiction owned me and I was the one choosing this to be that fact
Addiction demanded more and more from me to provide me with “that bit of fun”
“that relief from reality”
“That crutch required for coping”
“That reward for any success”

And quite simply I chose to act out, nobody made me, I would not have suffered irrepairable damage by not whoreing, but now I can say that I would have suffered irreparable damage by continuing whoreing and choosing the path of not to recovery

Of course this wisdom is easy after the fact, hindsight is the most powerful of tools, when I was in full blown addiction I was choosing to be so but would deny that to the death, for sure urges are real, but addicts nurture them, they exist only because we allow them to, we can manage them by applying the take a break brake, RN shows us the route, we choose to take it or we choose not to choose

So I say again
Addiction is a way of life, but it is not living
Life is a gift and needs to be embraced by living
Choose and choose wisely, remember that we all do have that choice

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2018 5:20 am 
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I was watching commercial TV in the UK and in every break there was the phrase
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Together is a great place to be

This struck a chord with me
I assume, that because it was on commercial TV, the author aimed it at a wide audience a community?

However I saw it differently
I saw it for couples, for families, the absence of selfishness providing togetherness

but it also resonated further
To me as an individual, to a recovered addict
I with the guidance of RN got my life together and what a great place to be that is
so Kenzo remember

TOGETHER IS A GREAT PLACE TO BE

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