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PostPosted: Sun Jan 14, 2018 1:06 am 
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What is FULL disclosure, from BOTH sides ......


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PostPosted: Mon Jan 15, 2018 1:07 pm 
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Full disclosure, what is it?
Lets start with what it is not
its not simply telling the truth, it goes way beyond that
it is telling the whole truth
answering un asked questions

It needs to start with the addicts self analysis and admission of whom and what he has become
the harm his chosen actions have caused

Full disclosure is what our partners need to have the opportunity to regain control over their life. To identify the ways in which our addiction has affected her. How it has influenced her value system. How it has violated the boundaries that she once held. She needs to have the freedom to explore the damage our behaviour has caused and the freedom to repair it

Full disclosure is a demonstration that we are willing to put her health above the relationship; above even ourselves

lesson 10 in the recovery workshop is worth re visiting
http://www.recoverynation.com/recovery/ ... op_010.php

quotes from therein

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One of the most important aspects of living a healthy life is your ability to share your true self with the world around you. That means that the life you are living is the life that others know you to be living. A life without secrets. A life without fear (of your hidden decisions being discovered). A life without deception.



full disclosure help to provide the foundation for this

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It is on you to develop a policy of honesty that reflects your desire to establish a true partnership with your partner. That means, 'black-and-white' honesty is not enough. You must develop a mastery over your own actions—including your own thoughts and the intentions that surround those thoughts. And learn to share them fearlessly—as they are a part of who you are and the life that you are living


in addiction one of the most controversial areas of open communication lie with how much detail to share.
well that is not a choice for the addict, she gets to choose, and that decision is hers and could well change over time

Finally "drip feeding " disclosure is no way forwards and it cost me my marriage
learn from my mistake

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