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PostPosted: Thu Dec 24, 2015 6:51 am 
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In terms of computers and smart phones, i am curious to know how far people have gone to restrict their environment. For me, unfortunately, getting around internet filters and similar things is no problem, and so i have spent periods without a computer at all, only to return for other reasons than my addiction.

I am curious to know others experiences. What has worked for you?


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PostPosted: Thu Dec 24, 2015 3:54 pm 
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Tilea32,

Tilea32 wrote:
In terms of computers and smart phones, i am curious to know how far people have gone to restrict their environment. For me, unfortunately, getting around internet filters and similar things is no problem, and so i have spent periods without a computer at all, only to return for other reasons than my addiction.

I am curious to know others experiences. What has worked for you?


It sounds like periods of no computer/phone access is helpful for you, and that's great you return to it for values based purposes it sounds like. I've noticed for myself, to a similar effect, that sometimes taking a break from computers/phones is beneficial and a relief just in general, and if I am particularly challenged with urges it can be supportive. Internet filters never did much for me, except actually add to the emotional intensity surrounding my compulsive rituals, as it adds another layer of "the forbidden" and stress that created a more intense high when still going through the filters to look at porn. So, oddly :s: , it is tricky business! Sometimes things can seem supportive but actually its an extension of addiction in a different, more appealing, disguised form.

What has worked for me is to create my own internal filter - basically filtering out what I don't value anymore, and filtering in what is of high value and priority. Once those are established in my mind, that boundary creating is the real filter for my health. So, if I break a boundary, it is obvious in my felt sense and intuition. Setting a timer for a time limit for a computer session is particularly powerful for me; the time depends on the activity/value. So, for example, when I do my recovery work, I set a timer for 10 - 25 min, and an additional 5 min to finish up. More than that per day is just too much imbalance with other things in my life. I love my watch! If an trigger occurs and I am feeling reactive, I remove myself from the computer and meditate, then make a values based decision of what to do next. If trigger occurs, I can also notice it, and continue through with what I was intending to do (with my values based internet activity). Taking mini 1 - 20 min breaks from the computer when I am in for a long session (like job searching) is key too, just to support my emotional balance in general. These are some things I can think of off the top of my head.


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PostPosted: Fri Dec 25, 2015 12:11 pm 
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Hi Tilea,

I haven't used any filters because as you've found, they're not very effective and they take away my responsibility to make the right decision. I use accountability2you which logs and tracks all usage on my phone and I mean it tracks everything including keystrokes. If you look at the log you can go back and reconstruct what I was doing at the time but it doesn't block or restrict anything. If it sees something that it believes is inappropriate it sends an alert to my accountability partner. Could be a website or even a word in a text or email. I don't feel that I need it but keep it to help my wife feel safe. My work computer has unrestricted access to the internet but I bring that home every night and my wife is free to check it whenever she likes. She has some type of program that will recover deleted websites that were visited, pictures, etc. You get the idea.

On the other hand I do limit myself online. At work on my computer, I keep everything about work. No random browsing or that type of behavior. On my phone, I only go to sites I'm comfortable with. That's continually expanded as I've gone through this process but I just use the internet in a different way. Again, no random browsing and I stay away from social sites because it makes my wife feel unsafe. I want my online activity to have a purpose and I always keep that in the front of my mind. When that purpose is fulfilled I get off my device.

Anyway, this is what works for me.

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It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see. -David Henry Thoreau


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PostPosted: Mon Dec 28, 2015 3:18 pm 
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I blocked three or four sites via DNS-Block, this were trigger sites for me.
I blocked them during early and mid recovery. Today i block nothing anymore.
The purpose of this was to prevent "accidents", that means blocking them when i subconsciously typed in the url of one of this sites.

I restricted my online time, too. This has helped much. Further i deleted my skype, yahoo, etc. accounts. I created them only for camchat with girls - for immediate gratification. I deleted several other accounts, too. A few days ago i got an email of a site showing tons of "hot chics" protographed in discos and clubs around my town. They telled me that they will shut down their site at the end of this year. I forgot that i had an account there. So i thought about the purpose why i created the account, once - for immediate gratification. Only "registered members" could enlarge the thumbnail pictures. So nothing to do here anymore - time will wipe out this account and this site...


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