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PostPosted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 8:49 am 

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Ok, so I know this is a bit of a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question but, I’ve just completed lesson 21 and I’m a little bit concerned.
I know we all move at our own pace, and some have greater capacity to read, understand and express themselves than others, and that will affect the time taken to complete tasks, but I started my personal recovery in March this year and I’m about a third of the way in.
I genuinely believe my life, or at least the kind of life I want to lead, depends on getting this right and, that in turn means total sincerity, assimilating and applying everything thoroughly to me.
I could probably rattle my way through a number of lessons a week, splurge out all the right words and nail the programme in a fraction of the time I’m taking, but I don’t believe that would achieve any significant progress in changing me.
I am also seeing a therapist, attending SAA meetings and trying to implement the knowledge I am gaining from those simultaneously.
Whilst ‘life has got in the way’ a bit at times, even when I’m involved in other things, recovery is at the forefront of my mind, I’m constantly monitoring myself and trying to understand how and why and grow, In fact, at the moment, recovery is a bit all consuming, certainly much more than an hour a day. I’m not bleating, I know I need to, and want to do this.
Like most I guess, I’m having to contend with, who I thought I was, and my skewed life game plan being bought into question, even destroyed out of necessity, leaving me feeling lost, I have also struggled with an inhibited mental capacity to grasp things, in part due to medication and alcohol abuse, but also due to the confusion the realisation that I became a sex addict, and how far it went, has caused.
I strongly believe this programme can play a significant role in helping me become the person I want to, and should be, and am totally committed to it.
I just wondered, how long it is taking people to work through the programme. Am I overthinking things?

PostPosted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 11:37 am 
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Hi Cloz
How long does the programme take

I know this is a bit of a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question

for sure it is
but if you look only at the maths there are circa 90 lessons including the supplemental

so at two per week 45 weeks
at three then 30 weeks
however what does it matter
it takes as long as it takes to

1.Developing a Functional Awareness of Addiction — including the role of addiction as a life management tool, the finite role of emotions, the experience of Delusional Actualization, understanding compulsive rituals, measuring compulsions and more. No more will addiction be thought of as some mysterious or inevitable entity that resides helplessly within a person. Addiction is a very useful pattern that has developed for very practical purposes. Understanding this will go a long ways towards altering your perception of both addiction and your role in eliminating it from your life.

2. Developing practical, ongoing personal awareness — in relation to one's values, boundaries, skills and identity.

3. Developing the ability to isolate the addiction — from one's core identity. This is done through a sometimes radical shift in self-perception.

4. Developing the life skills needed to manage a healthy life. Abstinence is important, but it should not define a person's health. Only through the development of skills such as value development, protective boundaries, effective urge control, emotional management, prioritization, decision-making, absolute honesty and more can a healthy life be attained. And in a Health Based Recovery, that is the goal. To live a healthy life, not to manage an addiction.

5. Developing the tools to permanently end the pattern of addiction. Yes, permanently. This is a fact that has been proven over and over again. Addiction can be ended permanently. The HBR model will guide you in developing the perceptions, experiences and tools needed not just to end your current sex, love or porn addiction, but to end the pattern of using addiction to help you manage your life.

remember that you are here to change your life and to ensure that change is permanent

do everything at your own pace and please do ensure that you ingrain what you learn as you go

keep progressing

Coaches and Mentors are on hand not only to pat on the back but also kick up the arse if required, right now you are doing OK so onwards and upwards

Remember recovery is more than abstinence
Every transition begins with an ending
Do not confuse happiness with seeking pleasure
stay healthy keep safe
Coach Kenzo

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