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Exercise 2- Vision


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PostPosted: Fri Dec 23, 2016 3:05 pm 
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hI 2020changing,

You've done good self reflection here. The specificity of your vision for your life is, in particular, notable and can be useful to you as you shift your focus from managing your husband's recovery to strengthening your own value system.

As you've described, your husband's behaviors and life management to this point have been immature and lacking in depth.

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Any attempt at a real conversation would be lost on both of us. I didn't feel 'heard' and my hurt was further expressed as anger or withdrawal.


It is likely to be a while before your husband develops better conversational skills, if he chooses to really sink into his recovery. Until then, you may find you need to keep conversations relatively short and to the point. This is not a necessarily comfortable arena to navigate, especially if deep communication is a value of yours. I am several years into this (learning about recovery and observing my husband) and am seeing fully now the limitations my husband has with any form of mature, reflective communication. He simply does not get it, and your husband likely fits into this category.

These skills CAN be developed and the workshop can help your husband in this regard--if he really desires a change and help here.

In the meantime, you will need to get your emotional validation needs met from another source. The right counselor can be one source. Over time, you can get better at validating yourself, too. As you get better at this, you will be in a more stable position to objectively assess your husband's recovery efforts and sincerity and make values-based decisions around your boundaries and future.


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Exercise 10
A. Three most important values from lesson 2


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Exercise 12
A. Describe where you are now in terms of your response to the discovery of your partner's addiction. Not where you were last month, or where you hope to be next month. Where are you right now?


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Exercise 13
A. One of the first steps on the road to healing is to take inventory of all the ways that your partner's compulsive behavior has affected you. Begin listing these consequences and post them in your Healing Thread.
It will be important for you to consider the affects to your physical, emotional, social, spiritual, economic, interpersonal, potential selves — as well as any other area that you feel is relevant. There are no right or wrong answers, only ways that you believe this behavior may have impacted your


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