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PostPosted: Fri Jun 07, 2019 7:38 am 

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In my opinion, this horrific story is yet another example of why pornography is NOT harmless. Lesbian porn is one of the most viewed categories online, and the fact is, if a man's brain is "wired the wrong way" then this pornography is absolutely not going to be a harmless pastime. It makes them misogynous, makes them dangerous.

PostPosted: Fri Jun 07, 2019 6:25 pm 

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I agree. Porn is definitely not “harmless” as this horrific attack shows. Lesbians are nothing more than a porn category instead of human beings just trying to live their lives peacefully in the face of misogyny and homophobia. I hope the men who did this are caught and go to prison.

A lot of young women now report that their male partners expect them to accept hair pulling, being slapped during sex, anal sex, so-called rough sex and being ejaculated on the face, that is, to go through all the various scenes in a porn video. I grew up and discovered sex before the internet so I know what good sex is and can be. I feel sorry for this generation because this is what they accept as ‘normal’. Also, a lot don’t use condoms (just as in porn, so perhaps another reason why porn is not harmless) so the rates of sexually transmitted diseases are rising, including gonorrhoea and syphilis. Cervical screening rates have fallen too, particularly in the under 35s. Reasons for not attending appointments include feeling uncomfortable about the appearance of their genitals, poor body image and not shaving/grooming pubic hair. You’d think feminism had never happened at all, we’ve lost so much progress and gone backwards. The influence of porn culture on our young women has been utterly toxic.

My husband is a recovering porn addict. I’d love to say recovery is possible but in reality it’s about managing it from a holistic approach. Even so, he has admitted to struggling again recently. Not relapsing but having intrusive thoughts and flashbacks. It IS an addiction. It really does rewire the brain and it’s very difficult if not impossible for the brain to undo the hardwiring. As far as the damage done to our relationship, I curse the day we connected to the internet. Our sex life effectively ended from the first week we had an internet connection. I could learn to live without sex, but it doesn’t stop there. Porn addiction is progressive. It creates distance in a relationship because of the deception. Eventually I felt trapped in isolatation. To this day, I don’t know the whole story and I doubt I ever will. His problem is that he can’t be honest, not even about the trivial day-to-day stuff. It’s as if he’s hardwired to lie, probably as a consequence of his porn/sex addiction. So it’s all toxic as far as I’m concerned. His porn addiction damaged me, damaged my self esteem, set me up for a late-onset eating disorder and pushed me into clinical depression. So it’s definitely not harmless.

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