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 Post subject: Fetish Obsessions
PostPosted: Mon Dec 09, 2013 4:41 pm 
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Ive been looking at porn, mastrubating and been obsessed with stockings, heels etc for most of my adult life (I'm 55 now). After being found out twelve months ago I have completely stopped looking at porn mastrubating and objectifying people. I want desperatley to get to a healthy life.My wife has been very understanding and I dont have any day to day obsessions but I worry that my fetish obsessions are going to jump up and smack me in the face some time in the future. Does anyone out there have any experiences that they can share with me to ensure that I dont get caught out as I really do not want to go back to the life I once had.


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 Post subject: Re: Fetish Obsessions
PostPosted: Sat Jan 18, 2014 10:24 am 
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Hi tonymatthews,

This might be a better question for the recovery community forum. You are correct in your concern about getting caught off guard and relapsing into full on addiction behaviours. I would not say that you are "recovered" as you have been in a period of abstinence, and from a health-based perspective, abstinence, while often a necessary component and always recommended component of the recovery process, is not in and of itself recovery, nor is abstinence necessarily a sign of recovery. As far as not going back to acting out, what have you done to create a new foundation for living? The recovery workshop lessons are a great tool for this development.

Be well.

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Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom. (Viktor E. Frankl)


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 Post subject: Re: Fetish Obsessions
PostPosted: Mon Dec 15, 2014 5:07 am 
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The best thing is that your wife supports you. I hope soon you'll defeat your fetish.


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