Recovery Workshop Assessing S&M, Sexual Violence and Rape What is it? Rape For the purpose of this workshop, rape will be considered only in the context of the need for the perpetrator to achieve sexual gratification and/or to overcome extreme social anxiety or ineptness. Rape in an effort to exert power or domination does not fall within this scope. Nor does a person who merely fantasizes about rape. Additionally, the act of rape will be considered to be any action that involves the unconsenting sexual penetration of another person in an effort to achieve sexual gratification. Sadism/Masochism For the purpose of this workshop, sadism will be considered the act of deriving sexual stimulation from the infliction of intentional physical or emotional pain on another person. This does not include the playful roleplaying of occasional mildly sadistic behavior (e.g. blindfolding, limb-tying, spanking) between consenting partners, but rather, the consistent need for such behaviors to be present in order to achieve sexual gratification. Masochism will be considered to be the act of achieving sexual stimulation as a result of being the target of intentional physical or emotional pain. This does not include the playful roleplaying of occasional mild sadistic behavior (e.g. blindfolding, limb-tying, spanking) between consenting partners, but rather, the consistent need for such behaviors to be present in order to achieve sexual gratification. Sexual Violence For the purpose of this workshop, sexual violence will refer to any act of violence, mutilation, desecration or other behavior involving significant physical damage, injury or death. These behaviors may also be classified as sadistic, but for this workshop, the difference will be in the extent/permanency of the damage involved. Common Patterns Associated with Rape, S&M or Sexual Violence: I. Rape Engaging in intercourse with a woman who is unable to give consent due to age, mental capacity, drug-induced state or an altered state of awareness (e.g. sleeping, unconscious) Adult copulation (or other sexual act) with a child Forced anal/vaginal penetration with foreign object (e.g. broom handle, bottle) Finger penetration of an infant Forced sexual acts with someone who has refused consent Forced sexual participation through the use of threat. coercion or power II. S&M Humiliation role-playing Dominating or being dominated by another Using whips, paddles, belts, etc. to inflict pain Painful spanking, pinching, biting, hair-pulling while engaged in sexual activity Electrical shock or other painful stimuli to genitalia Blindfolding, bondage, kidnapping or other behaviors which intentionally restrict freedom III. Sexual Violence Flesh burning Amputation of fingers, feet, hands, limbs Stabbing for the purpose of ejaculating into the wounds Choking partner to death while engaged in intercourse Excessive punching, kicking partner into sexual submission Murder with the purpose of having sex with the body Elements Frequently Associated with: Rape Power Danger Fantasy Suspense Accomplishment S&M Sensory (especially physical) Fantasy Past (especially related to dominating/being dominated; humiliation) Suspense Sexual Violence Power Danger Accomplishment Other Elements Commonly Found in a Ritualistic Chain where S&M, Rape or Sexual Violence are the Primary Behavior: Rape Sensory (physical)) Orgasm S&M Power Danger Orgasm Sexual Violence Danger Suspense Frequent Cues/Triggers Often Associated With: Rape Pornography (especially when bondage, rape is involved) Opportunity (situation presents itself) Delusional infatuation/attraction to target Increased stress Poor social skills Loneliness/isolation Sexual/romantic rejection S&M Curiosity Past experience with sexual trauma/physical abuse Extreme skewing of sexual boundaries Extremely poor relationship/intimacy skills Increased stress Previous exposure to S&M behavior through pornography, video, past sexual partners Past history of emotional neglect/parental rigidity Sexual Violence Extremely poor social skills (intense shyness; avoidance; fear of rejection) Severe depression/social pathology Poor relationship/intimacy skills Sexual boundary issues Past history of severe physical/emotional abuse Boundaries Frequently Violated By: Rape Autonomy [especially in relation to safety (victim) and prison (rapist)] Safety (victim) Integrity (when behavior is discovered) Identity (when comprehending the nature of your actions outside of the feelings they produce) Social acceptance (behavior frequently leads to further isolation and secrecy) S&M Self-respect (especially when being humiliated/dominated) Intimacy (becomes more and more difficult to establish heatlhy sexual intimacy with partner) Identity (when comprehending the nature of your actions outside of the feelings they produce) Social acceptance (behavior frequently leads to social isolation and secrecy outside of S&M circles) Sexual Violence Autonomy [especially in relation to safety (victim) and prison (perpetrator)] Safety (victim) This area is for those who have raped others and/or pursued sexually violent behavior. If you have exhibited such behavior, please complete the following and a follow-up e-mail will be sent. My History with Rape, S&M and/or Sexual Violence First Name and Last Initial: E-mail address: Describe your history related to rape/sexual violence and S&M: Think for a few minutes, then list all of your most common triggers for this type of behavior: List any concerns, unusual circumstances that you currently have regarding this behavior. For instance, any bizarre rituals that you perform, family concerns, frequency issues, etc.