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 Post subject: Am I overreacting?
PostPosted: Wed Jan 12, 2022 8:08 pm 

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I need to share with others who may understand. My PA/SA husband and I have been working on recovery the past 4 years. His recovery work has been very non consistent and lacks any structure and he continually relapses with porn every few weeks. We have an upcoming couples appointment to address all of that where I will present my boundaries with my personal therapist present. So I feel secure and confident in my next steps in recovery but something happened that has been eating at me and I would like input on if I'm overreacting.
My husbands grandmother passed away so he has been packing up her belongings with his uncle the last few days at her home. I noticed an email to my husband from his uncle the other day. The email was a link to an interview with a web cam girl where she talks about how much she loved being a cam girl and all the money she made. Also attached in the email was a document of personal text messages between his uncle and this specific cam girl. The text messages were discussions on the philosophy of human desire. Several texts the girl thanked his uncle for the romantic love letters he sends her. I am very disturbed to know that his uncle who is 65 years old is having a personal online relationship with a 19 year old girl. They are close enough that he addresses her by her birth name and has her personal phone number. This scares me because I feel like this is almost or is child predator behavior on his uncle's part. This young girl is someone's daughter and he is a grown man. It feels wrong to me and I now feel fear about having his uncle over to visit considering that I have a young daughter in law and a grandbaby who often visit me. I fear that his uncle, while visiting our home could use our wi fi and look up underage girls. Or he may be objectifying my daughter in law in his mind. I do not want this risk in my home and I just really don't feel comfortable around his uncle anymore. Am I over reacting? When I asked my husband why his uncle was sending him this email, he says his uncle is exploring the philosophy of human desire and writing a paper and wanted my husband's input. The whole thing feels weird and deeply disturbs me

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